To think my parents should stay out of this?

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Name change due to people knowing my username. First post but long time lurker.

So I'm 21 and just recently moved out of Dparents house to study in another country for the summer (I also spent last year living in another country to learn that language as part of my degree).

DM decided to "tidy" my room whilst I'm away and came across a condom wrapper that was in a bag. I obviously had no idea it was there. After the first phone call when she said she was disappointed in me etc she has brought it up in every phone call and now just goes on about going on the pill - as they're quite religious and their religion is against contraception. Tonight she got Ddad to bring up the topic even when I said I didn't want to talk about it as I had contraception under control and it's part of my life I don't want to discuss with them - mainly due to the religion part.

AIBU in thinking it's none of their business and that they should stay out of it?

You could always try the shock tactic if shutting them down doesn't work: 'You want me two stop using contraception? That's fine. I'll still be sleeping with a different man every night, sometimes two. Sometimes to at once. But yes, if you prefer I'll stop the contraception.'

It might infuriate them enough to shut them up!

If they are against condoms on religious grounds. They should also be against the pill. They really aren't making sense.

Email them and tell them that you enjoy talking to them but contraception is non of their business and you will put the phone down and end the phonecall every time they raise the subject.

Then make sure you end calls the second they raise the issue.

Maybe you should tell them straight that you find it very uncomfortable how much they want to talk about your sex life and they need to stop.

I mean, what exactly is it that they would like you to do? go back in time and be a virgin? Have sex without protection and risk infection or pregnancy?

My eldest son has condoms in his room as I expect most young people do. I'd never mention them to him as its none of my business. I'd feel odd bringing the subject up at all as I prefer not to think of him having a sex life! He's still my baby and some things are none of my business.

Tell your parents you're disappointed with their lack of respect and refuse to discuss it any further.

So they're ok with you getting syphilis or whatever but not with you getting pregnant?
Nice

They sound as Barmy as most religious beliefs.

My parents would never discuss sex either and I had no support. Still I am the same age sd your dad and managed to endure there were condoms available in the bathroom for any of my teens to use if needed and took my dd to have the implant at 15 as she asked my too and she's mature.

Neglecting and being blinkered and silly over chatting to kids about sex and contraception as a parent is to me neglectful.

Op put the phone down and don't engage. It's wierd.