To feel sad I can't remember the last nice day I had

[Suncreamandspades]

Dd is 12, she has some mildish SN and she has been horrendous for the last three years.

Beyond rude, argues constantly, pinches and pushes me, screams in my face, breaks things in the house, contradicts. me when I'm talking to work/friends/family on the phone. Won''t leave the dog alone, ignores everything I say, will blatently sit and turn her back to me when I've asked her to do something.

She used to be such a lovely, polite, well mannered girl. Now she's awful. Even my Dad who never tells her off is getting annoyed.

Even days out just for her to special places are ruined by her, nothing is good enough for her.

To make it worse she never is in her room, she's always a foot away from me. I have no space. She is always in my face. She also gets angry if I punish her or simply angry at me for being upset or annoyed that she has been nasty to me

I have asked nicely, told her off, shouted, taken away gadgets, grounded her, praised the good etc

Nothing makes any difference, I'm tired and not well myself and I'm just so very tired and sad.

I've got the explosive child one, the get out of my life but first take me to town one but very happy if anyone can recommend anymore.

I don't get in a shouting match with her, I walk away, she follows me however carrying on raging. I've gone in the bathroom and shut the door before now .

It's probably not your feeling at the moment but are you both ever affectionate with each other? Do you ever cuddle? She feels the whole world is against her and she's dragging you down with her.
What are her friendships like?

Autistic tendencies? FFS does she have autism or not? That sounds like the ultimate 'sit on the fence' non-diagnosis to me. Not that I know anything, but I think I'd be wanting a second opinion at the very least.

Yes, the 'at home' meltdown after the stress of being 'normal' school is common. Has anyone suggested ADHD? These conditions often go together. (I don't work with asc children, but I have worked with people who do) Does she have any friends?

Juneau I am pushing for reassessment at the moment now we have the other diagnoses.

We used to be very very close.
Now she wont let me cuddle her at all. She only asks me to tuck her in. She was still fighting to sleep in my bed until March!

She doesn't really have friends. She has a boy she sometimes hangs around with. Friendships are an issue and always have been. She makes friends but can't maintain the friendship. She's quite controlling.

Could the gp refer for cahms if it's available where you live? However pre teens can be an emotional roller coaster. She's disrespectful to you which is a massive no no but if your relationship is volatile you need to get on top of that. It sounds like you've done alot to deal with this but you're not getting anywhere. What about the school senco, are they any good? You could speak to them to them to see if they're willing to add weight to your support network.

Whats your relationship with the school? How is she at school?