DH called the police on our neighbour's son last night, WHBU?

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At around 2am this morning we were woken up by loud banging and shouting coming from next door's front garden. It was warm, so we had the bedroom (which faces our front garden) windows wide open, so we heard everything.

Neighbour's son had been locked out by neighbour. He's 19. Evidently he'd been out drinking, come home later than my neighbour had wanted so she was refusing to get up and let him in. He was kicking and punching the door, screaming through the letterbox things like "open the door you cunt!" and "if you don't let me in I'll fucking break it down" and threatening her that if she called the police (I think maybe my neighbour was talking to him through the door, but we couldn't hear) he'd smash the place up.

So DH went to the front door, opened it and told him to calm down. He swore at DH, shouted something nasty and DH came inside and called the police. Police arrived and we heard them speak to him, the neighbour's door open, and we think they went inside. We went back to sleep.

Did he do the right thing? We don't know if he was arrested. Neighbour was possibly trying to avoid the police and teach her son a lesson, or something. I suspect we may not be popular but we're not on the best terms with her anyway.

Would you have called the police or let the neighbour deal with it herself?

Teabag I suppose because his mother was 'dealing' with him already - I was wondering if the police were really necessary or if we were poking our noses in.

You have done her a favour-he has had to face consequences without her being the one to involve the police. I hope she can see that.

Yes he did the right thing. too many people turn a blind eye too many times. I can understand why though, if I'm honest. People are scared of come backs ect
He's calling his mother a cunt. God help the women he marries.
Yes he'll probably wake up and feel like his hang over, has a hang over.
Now on to his mum. She seems like the type who looks down on people on from your post. I really don't think she has much room to

He is a disrespectful prick abusing his mum then your husband who wasn't even being rude. So good.

Yes, he so did the right thing. Do it again if you ever need to.

What would the lad be done for, do you all think, caution for breach of the peace, maybe?

Honestly, what did they expect. Your DH was very reasonable, OP.

Well, she doesn't seem to have been dealing with him very effectively, either in the relationship overall (otherwise he wouldn't have been screaming and kicking her door) or that evening. Of course he'd kick off if locked out! Once she permitted it to escalate like this, it's out of her hands, and she can suck up any "shame" of police involvement.

(more sympathetically, if SHE was frightened and his lack of control isn't anything to do with her, she was being unreasonable not to have called the police herself!)

I'd have done the same, I wouldn't leave anyone in potential danger without help from someone threatening them. If they don't want the help when the police arrive they can say so but too many women post here who could desperately have used a neighbour like your dh when they became aware of shouting, threats and doors being battered.

His mum wasn't dealing with it. Dealing with it isn't locking someone out while they shout and swear and abuse the neighbours.

Either she was scared to let him in, in which case the police needed to come. Or she was being shitty by trying to teach him a lesson and not giving a crap about anyone else who lives near by.

Either way it needed to be sorted, your dh tried and he became aggressive. Therefore it's a job for the police.

Maybe they both needed a wake up call or the just the son does.

I doubt he was arrested if he calmed down when he went in and his mother wasn't afraid of him. They may have taken him to a friends or family members to spend the night. Especially if this is the first time it has happened

[in response to the question 'Why do you think he might have been unreasonable?']
"I suppose because his mother was 'dealing' with him already - I was wondering if the police were really necessary or if we were poking our noses in."

Well, her way of dealing with it was a bit crap - creating the situation where her neighbours get woken to earfuls of abusive language and a reasonable fear for her safety. That is not effectively dealing with it. TBH, she should have called the police.

With a conditional caution he would get a short sharp taste of involvement with criminal justice, some exploration into any anger management and alcohol problems and no lasting criminal record.

The intervention is proving very successful.

Well I wouldn't have done it.I doubt your NDNs will thank you for it, and living next door to people who hate you is no fun and there come a time when you need their co-operation.

So you put up with crap behaviour maypolist

yyyyy call the police everytime in situations like this

maypolist and what if he carried out the threats?

They don't like us anyway may due to circumstances beyond our control. So we haven't lost anything really.