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Should I of offered money?

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Suncreamandspades · 03/07/2015 22:13

I'm rubbish at this stuff.
Dd has sn and has not been to a party in years and years. Her friends parents took just her and friend out for friends birthday tonight. An activity then takeaway.

I did send a present but I'm now worrying I should have offered money for activity and food and I will of vastly offended them Blush

Can you tell I'm not used to this stuff Blush

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fastdaytears · 03/07/2015 22:15

Absolutely not. It's a birthday treat from your Dd's friend's parents.

Hope she really enjoyed herself.

DevonFolk · 03/07/2015 22:15

I wouldn't have thought so because it was part of a birthday treat. If it hadn't been a particular occasion I'd have offered.

chewymeringue · 03/07/2015 22:15

I wouldn't have offered money in that instance. I don't think you did the wrong thing at all.

CoogerAndDark · 03/07/2015 22:16

No, don't worry about it. A birthday outing is on the hosts.

AndNowItsSeven · 03/07/2015 22:16

No, you don't offer money in those circs trances.

chewymeringue · 03/07/2015 22:16

Yes, if it was a normal day out I would offer but not if it was a birthday party type thing.

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 03/07/2015 22:18

I think it is normal for the parent of the birthday child to pay fo these things.
Unless it specified on the invite "we are going climbing, cost £10, please wear joggers".
I wouldn't have offered payment.

hesterton · 03/07/2015 22:18

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Hussarsataparty · 03/07/2015 22:19

YADNBU - hope your DD had a lovely time!

evelynj · 03/07/2015 22:19

No, they're hosting a birthday treat for their dn which includes having her friend join in
Hope she has a lovely time!

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Suncreamandspades · 03/07/2015 22:20

Thank you so much.
She loved it Smile She's such a lovely , kind girl to others but she really struggles to make friends as she won't even approach them but then gets upset at being left out. Child's parents are amazing so I definately don't want to offend them.

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MrsBungle · 03/07/2015 22:20

No - birthday treat for their child so they pay. Smile don't worry about it.

MaidOfStars · 03/07/2015 22:21

I think offering might have been reasonable. Well, maybe, 'How much money will she need?'. Did you give her some spends? A few quid fir ninsense sweets/arcade?

Magicalmrmistofeles · 03/07/2015 22:21

Nope, birthday treat. I'm glad she had a lovely dayGrin

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 03/07/2015 22:23

I'm not at party age, but I think as it was a 1:1 I'd follow up with a text/card to parents to say how much DD enjoyed it and to thank them. Maybe DD could help?

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Suncreamandspades · 03/07/2015 22:27

I did give her spends. She came back with it although I'm not actually convinced she offered it to them. Will drop a text in morning thanking them again and checking she did.

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