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Inviting children over to play during hols.

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Crocodileclip · 30/06/2015 06:32

Feeling a bit annoyed. DS has just finished P1, school finished on Friday. He has enjoyed the school year, seems to have settled in well and his report was glowing.

Unfortunately due to circumstance we live a couple of miles away from the school whereas most pupils live very close. My DS therefore doesn't know anyone from the school outside of school. Due to work commitments I haven't really been able to do school drop off and pick up and therefore haven't really got to know the other mums. DS has been invited to a few whole class parties which he enjoyed but has had no invites from those he calls his friends.

Last week in an effort to ensure DS sees some people from school over the holidays, I put a hand written letter into the trays of his four friends suggesting to their parents that it might be nice if they could come over to play sometime during the holidays. I gave my mobile number and suggested they text me to arrange. One mum texted that night, delighted to have heard from us and happy to arrange something.

I haven't heard a thing from the other 3 mums. I know they might be busy but still it leaves me wondering why they haven't responded. Aibu to start wondering that perhaps my DS hasn't settled in as well as I had hoped?

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CycleChic · 30/06/2015 06:37

I've done something similar with my DD's classmates, and all the parents took more than the 3 days you've waited so far. Do you have a firm play date arranged with the one child who's mum is keen?


LuckyLopez · 30/06/2015 06:37

It's only Tuesday. Give them a chance. Is he your only child?


Backtobedlam · 30/06/2015 06:38

I honestly wouldn't worry. It may be that because the summer holidays are so long they are not exactly sure when/which days they are free and will text when they have a specific day. They could also have missed the note with lots of end of term things going on. I'm sure the teacher would have said if ds wasn't settling.


TinyTearsFirstLove · 30/06/2015 06:42

How about arranging a class Facebook page next school year. Much easier to arrange playdates/general meet ups/be in the loop with what's going on?


Mehitabel6 · 30/06/2015 06:50

I expect it is all a bit vague. If you phoned up and said 'would you like to come next Thursday at 2pm' you would get a better response.


nikinaki · 30/06/2015 07:49

I've done something similar and one parent took 2 weeks to reply! there's still time, I wouldn't worry :)


LindyHemming · 30/06/2015 07:54

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Bumply · 30/06/2015 07:58

A lot of Scottish families go abroad these first couple of weeks before English schools break up as prices are cheaper so it's quite likely they're not at home to respond.


Sunnyshores · 30/06/2015 08:17

parent at our school are really bad, gave 4 weeks notice for DDs party - a couple replied in a day or so, most replied 2 weeks later, some only the day before PITA


blink1552 · 30/06/2015 09:21

You're overthinking. Kids come home with piles of paper at the end of term which I normally get round to looking through about the day before school starts again.

Assuming the other parents are more organised than me and go through the paperwork sooner, it could still take them a week or more toget back to you. Don't take it personally. And I agree that a more specific invitation would be more likely to look like a response was expected.

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