If I scream due to frustration and anger?

[bluejeanswhiteshirt]

My ex and I broke up a few months ago and he moved in with friends an hour away from me and our 9 month old DD. He's immature, sarcastic, insensitive and can be very selfish and stubborn.

He's been staying over for a few days to 'help' me out but I've been close to tears on so many occasions. To name a few things, he's said/done -

Called our DD a fat bast (he thinks not saying the full word means it's OK) because she ate all her blueberries and started on mine too.

Said he's going to take her on the Smiler at Alton Towers because she's developed this habit of shaking her head and I said she's going to make herself dizzy.

Begged his mum to have contact with out DD after she put her precious cigarrettes and alcohol first for the last 9 months, and even when she said she had to 'think about it' he still thinks she's what's best for DD (his exact words). She's a crazy, manipilative alcoholic who can't be trusted.

Tonight I said I was upset because someone I know put a 'selfie' of her next to her dad's grave and I lost my mum not long ago so had a little rant about how it was inappropriate and how I couldn't understand why anyone would do it. He snapped at me and said I need to let people do what they want and told me not to be affected by others so much. I might be being unreasonable on this one but still, would it kill him to just not act like a dick for a few seconds and respect my feelings?

I think it must be time of the month soon because I feel like crying my heart out and telling him I never want to see him again due to the fact that he makes my blood boil!

AIBU?

[Tequilashotfor1]

Wake up blue your in control of your own life here. (Said in a nice way)

You are driving this thing now. You've had lots of good advice over the past threads and your still playing this dance.

You don't have to cut him out and from what you have discribed about him I really doubt he will go to the trouble of fighting for access by himself. You don't have to keep giving him chances.

Your not being fair on your dd because if this carries on further she will think it's ok to be called fat or that men are allowed to treat women like this, even if it's just sarcastic remarks.

You need to sort your own self esteem and self worth because it's clearly very low. Your just leading DD down the same path.

Regardless if he was nice in the past - he isn't now. He probably isn't nice now because he has no respect for you as your just sucking up what ever bullshit he dished out to you.

In the nicest possible way .... You need to give your head a wobble.

[Tequilashotfor1]

By the way - you don't have to do fuck all what his mother says

[Finola1step]

I'm going to throw an idea into the mix - What is stopping you from moving to Somerset so that you can be with your family?