dd has chicken poxs and work

[zobey]

Dd age 3 has chicken poxs. Im currently in training at a new job. I phoned in this morning and explained that i dont have childcare today as my dd has chicken poxs. They have rang me and said they want me in at 4 this afternoon for the last two hours of my shift. This means i have to get the hubby to finish work early and then go in myself. Wibu to say i can't get the hubby to finish earlier than 4:30( his actual finishing time.) Or should i be sating no my dd needs me. I have child care the rest of the week just not today.

I think you should show willing and go in at 4 pm although I do think it's a bit harsh of them to insist on this when you have childcare covered for the rest of the week. But when two parents both work then both have to share the responsiblity of childcare in emergencies or unforseen circumstances.

When I had chicken pox, my mum, who was a teacher, took me to work with her I had to spend all day sitting in the headmaster's office. He had a Yorkshire Terrier which used to lick my spots and make them sore.

It goes without saying when one parent starts new job that the other has to step up and do childcare in case of illness, I can't believe you have told them.you can't go in when you are in training

I think DH should have covered today. Training period in new job is not time to take unpaid emergency leave. DH could have taken the day as unpaid emergency leave.

When DD is better I'd suggest both you and DH check the law re parental leave and your own company policies. If he has never needed to before he may not be aware of who to notify etc. No excuses in future.

In this situation my DH would have taken the day off while I did the training, as he has an established job/career.

Yanbu. This worries me as I have been a mostly SAHM for 16 years and an soon going back (mostly p/t but with some f/t). DH has never had to worry about ill kids etc. It's one of the things that put me off going back for so long, the stress and wanting to put DC first and threat of losing job. With 5DC (one with health issues) there may be a few days needed.

But, although I have love sah, I feel I have to grab this chance of a well paid job while I can, I have never really had a career as had my DC young. I am late 30s and feel now DC all at school it is a great opportunity. However threads like this make me nervous! It will already be a juggling act with travel and childcare etc without illness thrown in! I have told my DH he will need to step up, housework and childcare. I just hope he does! His jobs not the most flexible!

When DH had to take the time if for DD's chickenpox it was with the knowledge that for the first 3 years of her life he hadn't had to take any time if for stuff like this at all, so not a big ask of his employer to support him now. I would get this sorted with your DH sooner rather than later.

Dh is coming home at 3:30 so i can go in.

jellybeans start as you mean to go on. Check law on parental leave and get DH to check his company policy.

Women tend to be much more clued up and chat about it. Just because he hasn't had to do it it or the other men don't isn't an excuse.

Glad you can go in op. Hope DC better soon.

Glad it's worked out for you OP. Dh has a much more illustrious career than mine and earns far more too. He still has to take a turn at looking after the children when they're sick -we base the decision on who can more easily work from home on that day, who has more holiday left to take and who did it last time.

Thank you dixiechick I will look into the policies.

Glad you got it sorted OP.

Wayne - just to clarify; people with caring responsibilities are legally allowed time off to deal with emergencies. So the OP's DH has a very good case for finishing a mere hour early.

www.gov.uk/time-off-for-dependants/your-rights