To be utterly fed up with 'D'p as he is incapable of keeping his mouth shut!

[godgivemestrengthagain]

I'm 11 weeks pregnant, when me and dp found out it was a shock, once this had worn off a little we decided only to tell both mums. We would tell the rest of the family after the first scan- which is not due for another week and a half!
4 weeks later....
He goes to visit his mum for the day and also to see his sister. Before he went I asked him not to tell his sister as discussed and he agreed. He comes back and says he has told his sister. Because his mum said she had no one to talk to about it.
I am utterly pissed off with this- my mum also has no one to talk to regarding this and is also super excited, but she has not asked me to tell any of my siblings.
Also we are getting married in a few months, again only both mums knew as they are the witnesses at local registry office, and he tells his sister this as well.
It feels awkward and odd that one sibling must know and not the others and now I feel obliged to tell my siblings.
Dp attitude I'll deal with my family and you deal with yours- WTF?! I cannot believe that any man would think like this.
Oooooh so I told him that I would tell his family as he had no regard for my feelings or what we had discussed ( I know this is petty)
Someone slap me!

It may be his family, but it's not just his news, is it?

It is really NOT fair for a partner to announce a pregnancy before the pregnant partner is happy about it.

Some people struggle to keep secrets. Maybe in future, tell no-one until you are ready to tell everyone.

Ok, you had a secret too exciting to keep to yourselves, so you told 2 people, and then he told one more person, and you got the hump, and now you're leaving him?

Why all the secrets, it's childish and tedious. I get the 12 week pg thing, but a secret wedding that you have again not kept secret but told some people and not others - you're being ridiculous.

YANBU - pregnancy is a hugely emotional thing, and as anyone who has had bad news at a 12 weeks scan will tell you, having to face people that you didn't really want to tell in the first place can make an awful time even harder. Without wishing to be a downer, those saying 'YABU - she'd have found out soon enough anyway' is assuming that you actually get to share your news after the scan, whereas most people who choose not to tell until 12 weeks do so just in case they are in that awful position where there isn't good news and they don't want to have to answer questions or explain to anyone unless they choose to.

If he wanted to tell his sister, then he should have told you how he felt and had the discussion, not agreed to keep schtum and then gone behind your back. I don't blame you for being cross and I do think that he needs to respect the decisions you have made together or make his case at the time those decisions are made.

Shes not finishing the relationship! shes having a childish strop with us, probably not unlike the one she is having with him and why he delayed it by telling her he wouldnt tell his sister he was to be a father.

I would be amazingly fucked off if details about my pregnancy were broadcast to friends or family by my partner without me knowing about it.

it wasnt broadcast! Nor was it details about the pregnancy other than it existed. And it wasnt friends and family. It was one close family member.

And we dont even know he did plan to tell his sister. Perhaps it just came out because she was there when he told his mum.

Hi guys,

I will not dump him- you are correct that's me in a strop.

His mum and my mum were told together 4 weeks ago and both agreed to keep it quite until the 12 week scan. Also the wedding as both mums will be our witnesses.
Dp went to see his mum on his own and then see his sister to pick something up. His mum asked him to tell his sister because she needed to talk to someone about it. Dp thinks he did the right thing as his mums has been worrying about the sister going through a nasty divorce, which has now resolved and thought by telling the sister it would cheer her up. I just wish he had discussed with me first.