I have been with my husband now for 11 years, we have 2 children together and I have 4 from a previous relationship. I have always had a strained relationship with his mother and step father, secretly I think they don't like the fact I speak my mind. They live just round the corner, literally a 5 minute walk yet she never bothers with her grandkids and can go 3 months without seeing them, we never get any support from her. When we first moved in together they offered us no financial help at all. When I was losing our son a few years ago my husband had to beg her to come round and sit with the kids so he could come with me in the ambulance Now here comes the hard part, my sister in law( husbands sister) gets baby sitting done at the drop of a hat, she has had cars bought for her and furniture and carpets bought for her when she got her first place. Is it wrong of me to say I'm angry at the fact my husband and our kids get treated so differently to her and her son? She has a partner so it's not like she's on her own. Our daughter is in the process of being diagnosed with autism and we could do with the support. I don't mind saying we are finding it hard going at the moment and are finding it hard to bite our tongues and not say anything. Am I being unreasonable to say to them they are either in our kids lives or they aren't? If they choose to be then we are gonna need more than 1 visit every 8-9 weeks.