to want to photo shop in MIL wedding pics

[robinlovesfatman]

She is missing from the crucial parents together shot. She has dementia and wondered off. DH says leave it but I feel strange without her there.

Also in all the excitement groom is missing from my extended family picture. Is this the norm to just have bride with family? DH says it is but I thought it was bride and groom together.

Basically I want to Photoshop and he doesn't...

Am doing album and are now noticing peeps missing from 'display on wall' shots for parents.

What is the etiquette here?

I assume the images are digital.
There is nothing wrong with making a copy, adding MIL, seeing if you like it.
Keep the originals, but there is nothing to stop you playing with copies.
You won't have all the pictures on display at the same time forever, so you can can choose the real ones or the complete ones. It was your big day, they are your memories. You can add to them.

It would be very strange to Photoshop it IMO. Photos are a record of a day and what actually happened, not a fictionalized version of the event.

I also agree with the pp who said it would look like you were ashamed of her condition and trying to mask it.

But then I didn't have any family group photos taken at my wedding as it wouldve felt forced and unnatural. Hence the idea of "missed" photos just isn't on my radar.

All my family are on photos, but they're dancing, having a drink, talking...you know, doing what they were actually doing at the time. I like that, as it brings back memories of what was going on.

I'm a photographer and I absolutely dread clients asking me to Photoshop absent people into group shots and I tend to refuse to do it.

I'm shit hot with Photoshop as it happens (not bragging but was sub-editor and layout artist so really do know what I'm doing) but it remains almost impossible to slip a pictures of someone else, taken at a different time, with different lighting and almost certainly a different camera set differently, into another image absolutely successfully.

Also, there's something distinctly 'off' in my opinion, about creating fictitious records of significant events.

It's worth being aware that you may well not have the right to be editing your photographer's images too. So you'll have to ask them whether they are prepared to do this piece of Photoshoppery and be prepared to pay for it. Which won't come cheap.

All you can do is try. If it looks good then why not? I think it is a perfect idea.

Thanks guys! Will see what Photoshop can do and have both pics. It costs 30 quid so worth a try

A bit late.

DS was missing last year from the class photo' and was photoshopped in; we know this but it doesn't mean we don't treasure the photo'. Hope you like yours.