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To be bored senseless by my friends constant baby boring/boasting?

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FlossyMcTrumpetson · 26/06/2015 16:54

Please tell me I'm not the only one secretly bored to tears by my friends incessant baby boring/boasting?
We have been friends for about five years. We used to get on very well - we still do, I guess to a point. She's a very sweet, good natured woman, I don't dislike her, I'm just starting to dread the thought of seeing her due to her current obsession with her child.
We both have toddler daughters of similar ages, mine is a bit older. Now I know we are all probably in some way baby bores to our friends, I probably am to some extent in that I do talk about my child IF people ask me about her. I'm proud of her and think she's brilliant, but I actually make a point of steering the conversation towards other things like world events or funny things I've overheard, life plans or a bit of work gossip - whatever it is to make me feel like there's more to my life than my offspring. That seems reasons reasonable to me.
Not if you are my friend. From the moment we meet to the moment I leave she just witters on non-stop about her child.
The most banal, pointless crap you've ever heard from an in-depth analysis of her sleep patterns, a blow by blow account of her eating habits to an eye wateringly detailed description of the contents of her latest nappy. Colour, size, and smell. If I try to divert the conversation away onto something else she will almost immediately interrupt me to point out something incredibly 'important' that Abby is now doing. "Oh look Abby is looking at that flower! Look! She's picked the flower! Look! She's just dropped the flower! Now she's found another flower!!"
She also always tries to constantly imply that her daughter is massively advanced in all ways. She's not, she's normal. This particular boasting bugs the shit out of me.
Any advice? I am not about to ditch my friend, we are part of a close circle of friends, I'm just getting to my wits end with her as I know she's better than this really. I'd love us to go back to the good old days where we would laugh and talk about normal and fun things and for her to regain her sense of self. She isn't depressed, I'm not being horrible to someone who is having a hard time. She isn't. She has a wonderfully supportive boyfriend, a big close family and an interesting part time job.
Anyone else in this position?

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silverglitterpisser · 27/06/2015 16:55

AllThe it doesn't n I have used Rose as a pseudonym! Surely there can't b two of them lol. Ah, I feel for u, ur sil seems to be streets ahead of my friend actually who would not go that far I'm sure I hope!

Good luck!

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Fauxlivia · 27/06/2015 22:22

I have a friend like this. The child is about 10 now and it hasn't gotten any better.

Aside from the boredom, the thing I find especially irritating is that in boasting about how special and amazing her child is, there is the implication that hers is more amazing than mine. Even though all parents secretly think this, some of us have more tact and self awareness than to go on about it to other parents!

Ilike my friend and her child is very sweet but I'm just not that interested in said child's every hobby/achievement.

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TowerRavenSeven · 27/06/2015 23:13

I was like your friend! Finally one friend of mine laid it on the line for me. We had a huge argument, we both said awful things to each other and we haven't been friends for over 5 years. The only good thing that came out of it was that I was made aware. Now I don't mention ds unless someone asks or am talking to one of my friends who is the exact same as me. We drone away to each other!

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