AIBU?
To enjoy the change in dynamic when one child is away?
Dancergirl · 26/06/2015 16:44
Middle dd (12) has been away on a residential school trip this week. I'm feeling a bit guilty as I'm not missing her as much as I should and am quite enjoying being a family of 4 for a short while.
Oldest dd has been staying late at school for rehearsals a lot this week so it's been just me and little dd after school. So easy! No arguments, easier for everyone to use the bathroom, just the feeling of more space.
I am looking forward to seeing her though 
AIBU?
WorraLiberty · 26/06/2015 16:53
YANBU
My DS(16) has finished his GCSEs and it's been a pleasant change having him home in the day, while my 12yr old is at school.
As you say, it's just the change in dynamics that's nice.
I'll probably be tearing my hair out by the end of next week, trying to find ways to get him out of the house 
ouryve · 26/06/2015 17:11
YANBU.
I have an 11yo and a 9yo and life is much more enjoyable with either of them on their own than with both together. It doesn't help that they're constantly goading each other. We've got to the point where I take DS1 out all day on Saturday while DH potters around with DS2.
Panicmode1 · 26/06/2015 17:22
My eldest (Year 6) has been on a residential trip this week and DH has been at a conference all week....so we've been a family of 4 rather than 6. I've enjoyed not having so much washing, but have missed them both terribly - it has felt very empty all week!
BullshitS70 · 26/06/2015 17:25
I think of it as it being like 'A Squash and a Squeeze'. The house seems massive and organised and calm when one or more kids is away, its lovely.
I think I need to borrow lots of kids for a weekend, entertain them, feed them, stop quarrels, and all that goes with having kids - and then when they all go home on sunday evening, it becomes clear that I was complaining about nothing.
Sickofthesnow · 26/06/2015 18:16
YANBU. I live in a house with 6 (3 DC & 3 SDC) and when one is away, the dynamic changes completely.
That said, I remember posting something on my Twitter about looking forward to the girls going for a camp holiday and a learning assistant who was a friends relative, commented and said that she thought it was sad that I wanted away from my kids. Hmmm, no I didn't actually SAY that.
I think a little break children parent wise is great for building their independence and confidence.
IHateStampysVoice · 26/06/2015 18:20
YANBU I always find it rather lovely and calm with just one child. It doesn't matter which one it is, and I always miss the other but nonetheless I find them together tough most of the time.
Being a parent to one child is so much easier. (Unless they are going through a particularly difficult stage!)
Momagain1 · 26/06/2015 18:26
Youngest DD is more like DH and I: quiet, introverted, non-confrontational. Oldest DD is loud. She walks loud, she talks loud, she is a people and attention magnet and oh my gosh she will argue with a fly on the wall!
When oldest was a teen, she would go away with youth group once weekend a month. The house was so calm, and quiet. If we went out, we enjoyed ourselves quietly, without attracting any glares or tuts directed at DD. even all these years later, that such a tiny woman (barely 5'3") can take up so much room in a room astounds me.
MirandaWest · 26/06/2015 18:45
I find it odd when just one of DS or DD isn't here. I'm used to them both staying with XH but when there's just one of them here (DS going to a sleepover tonight) it feels a bit wrong. He's away next week on a school residential trip and I will feel very confused I think. Probably doesn't help that he's nearly at the end of primary school and I'm on the cusp of being emotional...
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