Background: a family I know which are a little odd - I hate describing them like that, but they are. Father appears to have little social awareness although has always been nice enough. My daughter is friends with their daughter, who has minor learning disabilities. There is an older sister who plays with my daughter also. Mother appears to have low self esteem, appears 'dirty' and smells and is shy, children are immaculate. Mother raised some eyebrows recently by smoking just outside the school gate throughout her pregnancy, child was premature with breathing problems. I keep a distance of Hello's and nods with the parents but chat frequently with the daughters and have them over for play dates. I try not to be judgey, unlike other parents at the school gate, the girls are lovely!
Concerns: firstly, another parent spoke to me at a party about the older child being inappropriate with her husband. Stroking his arm, telling him he is handsome etc. She is 9. I didn't really know what to make of it and hoped it was just a minor crush....
Today at the school gate while waiting to go in (mother was in car) younger child (6) told me she had a bumped head. Older child said the step dad pushed her. I asked if he really did and she said yes and then looked mortified and ran off.
What do I do with this? Who do I contact? SS? School? Mother? Help please!