to ignore my colleagues request to close the window because of their hey fever

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I just don't believe him. He takes breaks outside to smoke and goes outside for his lunch. Surely if his hayfeaver was that bad he'd stay inside?

I hate having all the windows closed in the summer as its stale and stuffy.

Looking at his eyes they seem fine also. Aibu?

YABU not to believe him, but I can't imagine the smoking is doing his hayfever much good, so don't have much sympathy for him either.

Oh, this is a "welcome to MN" thread.

I know plenty of people who are miserable arm and regardless of what they take it makes no difference whatsoever.

Not everyone sneezes with hay fever, I don't as a nasal spray stops mine but I'd quite happily remove my eyeballs so I could rinse them off atm!

However hay fever in adults is a manageable condition for the vast majority of sufferers. You just have to stick at it and not forget all about it in between bouts...

Another part of managing it is to keep the windows closed when the pollen count is high...

Oh there's a "hayfever brigade now".seems to be one for everything according to some people.

Op..YABU. .can you not agree a compromise and have it closed half the time?

The hay fever brigade :o

It's possible that nobody is being unreasonable... It's fair enough to want the window open, it's fair enough to want it closed.

And yet another is accepting that sometimes you don't get priority over others simply because you want to.

My hayfever is fairly bad, DSis has a nightmare with hers, but neither of us would dream of forcing colleagues to sit in hot, stuffy rooms over summer. Most proactive sufferers accept they need to take steps to manage their condition and just get on with it. Poppet Princes/Princesses need to be handed a grip and told to get on with it!

As many have said, there are compromises, but a stroppy demand can always be refused.

I have awful hayfever this week despite taking more than my usual dose. It is only "managed" by minimizing the time I spent outside (so essential journeys only) and yes, all the windows at home are shut. DH objected at first, but once my eyes started streaming within 5 minutes of the window being opened, he got the point.

Can you get fans, or sit your colleague well away from the windows maybe?

Lazy, so because YOU can do it, everyone with your condition must? Strong logic well done.

but neither of us would dream of forcing colleagues to sit in hot, stuffy rooms over summer.

If its a choice between that, or me struggling to breath because the hayfever has exacerbated my asthma, then its the hot stuffy room. Luckily, in all the jobs I've had, no one has ever made a big issue out of this. Fans do a great job these days.

I said manage, not eradicate. Lashes. That and compromise, not forcing others to accommodate me at their own expense. And no one person being able to trump the wishes of others just because. My logic was fine. I made no absolute statements.

I am lacking in the hyperbole department, though!

Dancing, fans etc would be one of those compromises pp have mentioned.

I only said that no one with hay fever should automatically get to dictate how others had to live in an office.

It's called being kind to other people. Which seems in short supply these days.

There's a constant running theme on threads of "I'm alright so fuck you" these days, I have noticed.

I have to ask (I don't seem to be able to let this go):

Being kind to whom? The hayfever sufferer or those who find hot, stuffy rooms unbearable? Maybe the woman who asks to open the windows is peri menopausal... maybe she doesn't want to tell everyone... maybe... maybe.... maybe...

What is so hard to understand about the term compromise...?

Err not much, since I used the term in my first post and suggested it

Sorry, fanjo... I had to ask about your 'kindness' post cos I was agreeing with your 'compromise' post

Gosh, I went to see my allergist for a my once a summer visit to see how I was doing. I had been taking my nasal spray, antihistamine tablets, as ordered by the doctor. I have also had two years worth of allergy shots so far.

I was in such a state that she wanted me to have prednisone shots on the spot. Not everyone can just pop a Clarytin. Once you start reacting to pollen it takes a long time to calm down and pills won't undue the damage done. Antihistamines have a prophylactic affect on histamines. They cannot do anything about a reaction already underway.

So I have a lot of sympathy for him.

But, if he wants the windows shut, he should not swish back into the office wreaking of cigarette smoke. After all, other people might have an allergic reaction to cigarette smoke. I think everyone needs to be more considerate here.

I only said that no one with hay fever should automatically get to dictate how others had to live in an office.

They do if its going to have a major impact on their health. But thats not just for hayfever sufferers, its for anyone whose health is going to be hugely compromised by the actions of others.

What this thread needs is the kind police, they eradicate pollen, help people give up smoking and induce perspective and empathy in others

Oh! I am so sorry, Dancing. I forgot to take into account every different permutation of ill that exists in the world.

I can only refer you to the word 'compromise'.

Dancing exactly.

Lazy, what you're saying is "someone's illness doesn't come above someone's want" which is a load of shit. If someone is ill, the fact that something that will help their illness goes against my personal preference is irrelevant

No I am not saying that at all!

And I am buggered if I am going to repeat myself.

yab so u!! i take steroids spray and antihistamines and yet last week i couldn't leave the house and felt like i had flu.