To be pissed off with the headteacher about these comments

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I have recently moved house and it's a good 30-40 minute walk to the school now instead of the 10 minutes it used to take before.

I don't have a car at the moment, exdp made sure it was one of the first things he took when he left a few months ago and as a single parent saving for a car is almost impossible especially with moving house etc but it's next on my list to make the school run a bit easier for me.

Sorry I'm rambling on.

My mum has very kindly been picking dd1 up in the mornings for me and taking her to school in the car so it saves me the walk/hassle when I've been stressed moving etc.

The HT does an activity that my brother also takes part in. She was also my teacher through primary school if that is relevant.

She has been speaking to my brother, out of school time, asking him if everything was alright at home and if I was coping (!) because she's noticed my mum dropping dd1 off instead of me.

There are hundreds of other kids who get dropped off by grandparents, nanny's, CMs, nursery staff etc and I didn't even think it would be any cause for concern that it was my mum taking her up and not me.

Absolutely nothing has been said to me, I have never been asked what's going on and I'm really pissed off that she spoke to my brother about it instead of asking me directly what's going on.

I pick dd up nearly every day so she sees me all the time.

Aibu to be pissed off about her speaking to my brother (we don't speak, she doesn't know this I don't think) about something that shouldn't even be thought twice about never mind being concerned about?.

I suppose I am annoyed that it was my brother she spoke to because we are not on speaking terms even though she may not know this.

Wow! Is this a YABU that actually helps OP feel better?

I hope so Ed, it can't have been comfortable having imagined the worst of that exchange.

As for your brother... do the sod him dance. It used to be known as sticking your thumbs in your ears, your tongue out and mumbling nah nah nee nah nah! But now has an added bum wiggle (and yes, you can blow a raspberry if you time the tongue sticking and nah nee nahing right)

TBH, I think YANBU, actually.

What was to stop her speaking to you, and asking if everything is okay? In fact, it was remiss of her not to do so, if she had concerns about you and your children. Asking a third party, whether related or not is quite rude, and shows a lack of consideration for confidentiality.

And if she felt a bit worried about being so direct, what is she doing in a head teacher role? Really? She was worried about speaking to a parent directly about something affecting children at the school?

She may not have wanted to ask you directly in case you found it upsetting. You know her, is it likely to be nosiness or concern?