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To be pissed off and feel my friend is a little ungrateful?

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theblairbitchproject · 24/06/2015 21:44

It was my friends birthday last Monday (15th) and I took her out for dinner 3 days before on the Friday night- I paid for everything. She was off for a week last week and has been a bit stand offish with me since Monday- assumed she had a bad week (home life isn't great at the moment) and thought nothing more of it.

Then overheard her today bad mouthing me because I neglected to send her a text to wish her happy birthday.

AIBU to be a little pissed off and feel she is being ungrateful? She did send me a text to thank me for the dinner afterwards and I wouldn't put her down as an ungrateful person in general- just a little sensitive perhaps.

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Aeroflotgirl · 24/06/2015 21:46

That would make me think tgat bit less of her tbh, she sounds very childish.


PurpleSwift · 24/06/2015 21:49

Yanbu so childish and yes, ungrateful


RabbitSaysWoof · 24/06/2015 22:08

That's ridiculous a meal trumps a text. She sounds like a dick.


nikinaki · 24/06/2015 22:24

YANBU. She's incredibly ungrateful in this situation. I probably would have sent a text on the actual day too, but you definitely did nothing wrong. You should subtly remind her of the meal you paid for!


MiddleAgedandConfused · 24/06/2015 22:50

Yanbu! That must be really upsetting for you.


kissmethere · 24/06/2015 22:57

Sounds like someone you can't do enough for. Does she usually act like a princess?


19lottie82 · 24/06/2015 23:06

It depends. How close are you?

Did you mention her birthday during the meal? I.e. Have a good one if I don't see you?

Did she remember your last birthday?

3 weeks is kind of a long time.....

If one of my BFs "forgot" to even text and say happy birthday, if I always remembered theirs, I might be a bit miffed.


19lottie82 · 24/06/2015 23:07

Sorry I read that as three weeks, not three days!
Yes, she's a bitch!


theblairbitchproject · 24/06/2015 23:24

We're close. She's the only one at work who is a similar age so we get on well and have quite a bit in common. She does have some MH issues though and can be quite sensitive so I don't want to judge too much but can't help being a little pissed off.

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HeyDuggee · 24/06/2015 23:29

That's ridicilous. I wouldn't have texted in her birthday as I'm sure you already said it to her at the meal.

But even if you didn't, to bitch about you to others within earshot?

Says a lot about how much she values you as a friend, doesn't it?


CakeNinja · 24/06/2015 23:30

I don't think YABU about feeling hurt she was bitching about you, you did a nice thing.
But I'm a bit surprised that you are close enough to go out to eat just the 2 of you but you didn't think to drop her a 5 second happy birthday text.
Not worth bitching about, definitely not, but why didn't you?
I mean, a meal is nice, but 3 days before my birthday isn't my birthday!


arethereanyleftatall · 24/06/2015 23:33

It was lovely of you to take her for the meal out, but why didn't you text her on her birthday?


theblairbitchproject · 24/06/2015 23:50

It's just something I don't tend to do! Weird maybe I don't know?! Confused

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The5DayChicken · 24/06/2015 23:54

YANBU. Daft question, but was she aware that it was specifically a birthday meal rather than just 'your treat'?

She'll be mightily pissed off next year when she gets sweet FA Grin


MajesticWhine · 24/06/2015 23:58

She sounds a bit needy and a bit entitled. Don't bother next time. YANBU.


UglyBugaz · 25/06/2015 00:03

Yanbu I would actually confront her if it was me


WaferInMyCoffee · 25/06/2015 07:25

Do people actually text all their friends on their birthday? I would never expect texts on my birthday!? Did this friend get upset with every person who didn't text her Happy Birthday?

Sounds really, really petty and friends that get upset by things like this are just too much hard work...


GERTI · 25/06/2015 08:18

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Aussiemum78 · 25/06/2015 08:23

She is being ridiculous.

What does she do for your birthday?


BolshierAyraStark · 25/06/2015 08:27

Well you know next year that you should simply text her & get her fuck all else, ungrateful princess.


CakeLady1 · 25/06/2015 10:29

She sounds quite ungrateful. YANBU

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