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please tell me I am unreasonable!

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startrek90 · 23/06/2015 21:47

My pfb is 8 1/2 months old. Today I had to leave him so I could go back to my language training school. I miss him so much. Today I cried to myself, I feel so guilty and I missed him so much. I am terrified that he will forget me or won't want me anymore. I have bad PND and have struggled to bond with him. I love him so much.

Please tell me I am ridiculous and unreasonable. I am terrified my son will forget me.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 23/06/2015 21:49

He won't forget you. He luffs you! :)

BitOfFun · 23/06/2015 21:50

You're stuck with him, I'm afraid. Little limpets. Have you been treated for your depression? It sounds like you are catastrophising and thinking illogically: how many mothers work and have their babies forget them? None.

I'm sorry you're feeling so upset though- it does get easier.

Earthbound · 23/06/2015 21:51

You're his mum-of course he's not going to forget you! You are his world. Flowers

msgrinch · 23/06/2015 21:52

Your son won't forget you. You're his everything! he'll thank you for working hard. Thanks Brew

Littlecaf · 23/06/2015 21:55

Oh dear! I hope you are seeking help for PND. Your son won't forget you. Like limpets as another poster said. Flowers

PerpendicularVincenzo · 23/06/2015 21:57

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Hassled · 23/06/2015 21:59

You're not ridiculous or unreasonable - all I can tell you is that it gets easier and that your baby will be absolutely fine. He's meeting new people, having new experiences, but of course he won't forget you. Babies' memories are longer than that. Give it a few weeks and you'll cope better. It is bloody hard, though.

Topseyt · 23/06/2015 22:00

My DD1 went to nursery when she was 3 months old and I went back to work. That was 20 years ago, and I can safely say that she has never forgotten me.

It feels at the time as though you might have had your right arm cut off, but they do not forget you.

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startrek90 · 23/06/2015 22:09

I just feel pathetic and guilty. My DH cares for him at home and it is only for the morning but it still feels awful. I know I need to do this so I can actually speak with people in my sons life. I need to finish it whilst DH has leave and then I have him. I just keep telling myself it is only for 3 months.

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Frusso · 23/06/2015 22:12

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L0gLady · 23/06/2015 22:13

Remember - nobody comes close to mummy. Daddy, grandparents, they're all pretty damn good, but mummy is special.

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