It’s my birthday today, DH asked me what I wanted yesterday and said “I don’t need anything but I’d like to be spoiled a bit, I like flowers, chocolates, cake” he should already know all this we have been together 30 years.
This morning DH gave me a card and a £4 bunch of flowers (I know because he left the price tag on) no kiss, not even a happy birthday. Our DD was crying because she didn’t have anything to give me, she is 7 so obviously needs a bit of help with this kind of thing. I gave DD a hug calmed her down and told here all I needed from her was a kiss.
When DD had gone to school DH asked me if I was okay as I was quiet. I calmly told him I thought he could have made a bit more of an effort for my birthday and should have helped DD get me something, his response was “…. I can never do anything right in your eyes can I” I said I didn’t want to argue on my birthday and it was fine but next time please can you help DD, he got annoyed and speed off in the car in a huff.
I made a lot of effort for him on father’s day, got him a new pair of jeans and a nice box of chocs from our DD and helped her make him coffee and breakfast in bed, made a cake etc, etc. I feel really upset about all this, we were planning to go out tonight but he will probably be in a horrible mood now. AIBU expecting a bit more effort for my birthday.