to wonder why otherwise lovely people turn into insufferable twats on FB?

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I was scrolling through my feed and just thought at every one, DON'T CARE, BORING, TWAT, FUCK OFF, NO ONE CARES, WANKER

these are my actual, real life friends so I felt very mean thinking these things...but I just can't help it

there are actually very few people on my friends list that I actually enjoy reading updates from

and yes, I know I could hide, and often do.....but it genuinely intrigues me about what it is that makes people behave this way

also suspect that, I too, am a twat on FB

My posts are very boring. Mostly because my life is actually boring. I go to work and have what is generally considered to be the most boring, non-job on the planet, have no social life to speak of because I have two small children, and am proud of said children so like to share their undoubtedly boring achievements.

I'm not about to start to be someone I'm not.

I love holiday photos. Absolutely love them. Reminds me that there's a life beyond my incredibly boring life, and has inspired me to go places with my very boring little family.

Im trying not to share kids achievements or too much about them as its a permanent record and also because everyone else doing it pusses me off a bit!

Maybe this can help

I like holiday photos too, but only when the poster narrows it down to 20 of the best and most interesting. 60+ slightly out of focus images of the family on the beach is a bit much.

Fish I like that.

Ok, I've just scolded through my recent updates. They are:

A collection of recipes I thought others might like

I was tagged at a friend's birthday party, so a few smiling group shots.

A funny sign I saw that makes no sense.

A 'congratulations post to Ireland on the gay marriage thing, together with a stern word to Australia (where I'm from)

A pic of my child at the end of a race she placed in.

I shared a good friends blog post - she has a life limiting disease and it was a great post.

I'm going out on a limb here and saying I don't think they're twattish, but they are pretty similar to the rest of my friends' posts. I guess we're all a similar demographic - mums with jobs, kids, between 35 and 55.

Sometimes I post silly or funny stuf my kids do or say.

What do people post that is so bad?

pictish Agreed! One of my friends - an ex-colleague - went away over half-term and was posting 100+ photos every day. Twenty photos of her dc eating a slice of pizza.

I like her very much as a person and as a professional (our paths still cross) but this is a bit much.

however

I bet you don't have some cousin posting a photo of a cottage pie with the caption of "look at what I have maked".

I don't mind selfies here and there... if the poster is somewhere interesting or unusually tarted up or something.
I am not fond of frequent, spurious, identical, tell-me-I'm-pretty selfie posters. I hide those.

I'm not impressed with one friend who constantly puts pics up of herself and all her family and tells everyone what a good looking bunch they are. They aren't but that's beside the point.

Hey, OP - you do realise some people probably think the same about your posts too, right?

I have a friend, who I actually quite like in real life but who I can't stand on FB. Sometime I have to sit on my hands not to comment on her shit. She post a pic of her DD with the caption 'just stunning' the kid is an average looking 5YO.....arggg, just thinking about her winds me up.

So many mistakes in that passage....I can spell, I can!

i am certain of it kottonkrown :D

and LOL at manchestermummy

clara, I like to think I'm quite funny on fb. It's possible that I just have loads of deluded or blinkered friends and sm an snnoying arsehole, though. I'm prepared to consider the possibility.

My most recent post is about me falling arse over tit in the mums race at sports day and looking like a twat in front of all the hot Dads. I'm lucky that I'm exceptionally clumsy and have much to be self deprecating about!

see welsh that is funny

HOWEVER if I saw that on my feed I would roll my eyes and be all like hark at her thinking she is hilarious

basically people cant win with me

am just a massive grouchy bitch I think its best I don't interact with people

Everyone on FB wants some kind of mirror into some aspects of their world. Or they wouldn't be on there, its not compulsory. I accept that, as Im a FB user there is simply no point in pretending "Im a really private person"...as said by a few of my FB friends who squawk when someone makes a comment on their posts which probably isn't intended badly at all, but doesn't translate well into print

FB is a narcissist's paradise and playground, made bearable by the fact that some narcissistic traits are very mild indeed, so at least you have opposite ends of the scale

Doesn't mean we can't get annoyed by stuff tho...thats like saying if some posts on MN annoy you then you should leave MN altogether. That wouldnt be logical. FB has an "unfollow" button whereby you stay friends with a person but no longer get upates about them in newsfeed...so, you'd have to go to their page to seek them out

If you think someone's a twat, times out of 10 I bet, somebody is thinking "twat" about you too

I have 2 friends who put up endless selfies, today 1 of them has done loads of pics as a collage I think ffs we're 50 - leave the selfies thing alone...! So Ive "Unfollowed" so that I don't have the numerous pics clogging up my newsfeed

FB is known to be a huge source of depression, and cited in a rising number of divorce cases too. That just came to mind. Just because its social networking, doesn't mean its necessarily social. Or sociable. FB is a strange beast

YANBU.

Facebook makes me hate everyone. Even people I like.

I often mentally sneer as I scroll through my feed. (Not proud, just being honest.)

FB is a strange beast

this ^

(I am the op btw. nc. again )

People can come across twattish on fb but generally it doesn't bother me.

The ones that really annoy the shit out of me are the "I can't believe how two-faced some people can be" type posts which are followed up with many "Oh no, what's happened?" "What's the matter?" type posts. Then... "don't want to say on fb...i'll pm you".

Attention seeking winnety clags.

Winning class what's one of those then?

Whoops! Winnity clags I meant to ask!

Yanbu. I made a decision 2 years ago to either save several friendships and quit Facebook or end up posting some real passive aggressive shit and falling out.

My main issue with Facebook is how excluding it can make you feel. If I'm not invited to something that's fine - but I don't need to know, several times over with photo evidence. One of my friends got v upset about this but the over posting culprit couldn't see the problem

A winnety clag is an annoying bit of poo that clings to the hair round your bum.

Winning class is what i have or maybe not

I find it soooo hard not to get sarky with some friends. Eg an important date for said friends dh coincided with Father's Day this year cue several posts and photo montages of lurve to which each replied to the other ! I wanted to post "such a shame you didn't get to spend your special day together and were unable to contact one another privately leaving this as your only option"
knowing fine rightly they were in each others company the whole time ! I will do it one year