Maybe more of a wwyd
Emotionally abusive, controlling, sometimes physically abusive STBX and I are divorcing.
He is refusing to sign the petition and wants to contest it although he agrees it can be unreasonable behaviour, he feels it is a 'character assassination' and 'all lies'.
'Lie' number one - he did not 'strangle' me as I 'insist on keep saying' - definition of strangle is to cut off the air supply. As I am still alive he feels he did not strangle me, merely pinned me down on the bed with his hands around my throat.
'Lie' number two - he did not 'threaten to kill me' he 'expressed a preference'.
I claim he is an angry person and I was fearful for my safety - this is subjective and he is 'happy and pleasant' 90% of the time, it is only around me that he becomes angry because I am a sociopath.
It's absolutely bloody exhausting. Solicitor says I can go ahead anyway but it is really better if we can agree so it stays out of court. He just pushes and pushes and pushes every boundary and exerts every bit of control he can.
On the one hand, I want a quiet life and can't really afford to drag this out.
On the other hand, I really want to show him that he doesn't get to dictate everything anymore. I spent our whole marriage rephrasing things or not saying them because he found the smallest thing to be me insulting him and I don't like him having that control over me now.
Also, I know this is ridiculous but sorry for the counsellor speak but I really would like my experience validated because he has spent so long telling me everything that happened was either in my head or made up or misinterpreted that I feel like I need it in black and white.