To have bought DS a toy pram?

[Sansarya]

DS is 16 months and for a while now has loved nothing better than to play with the wheels of his strollers. He is obsessed with them and even when I used to take him to playgroup and rhyme time I'd spend all my time trying to stop him leaving the circle to play with the wheels of the various strollers that were there.

So I figured that perhaps the best thing to do was get him a toy pram so that he could play with that instead. Found one on Gumtree (in blue so hardly a pink princess type pram!) so bought that for him but the comments from my family! My brother kept saying "but he's a BOY, why don't you buy him a car instead?" and my mum kept putting the pram away when she visited and made a point of telling relatives and friends how my brother was "horrified" that I had bought DS a pram. Recently I sent her a photo of DS sitting in it while it was folding down and pretending it was a go-kart and her comment was "ah, that's what boys should do with prams".

FFS, it's almost as if they're afraid that if you give a boy a toy pram he might grow up to be.... a father??

It happens the other way round too, when DD was small she loved cars, we went out for a meal with friends and took some cars and a little table top mat thing for DD to play with while we ate and all our friends made some comment about it being a strange choice for a girl, one person even said "ah, poor you, does mummy not buy you your own toys?" (Suggesting they were her brother's)

Of course it is fine to buy a boy a pram. It's fine to buy any toys for any children.i cannot think of a single logical argument to suggest otherwise.

It's a non issue. DS used to push his teddies etc around in a toy shopping trolley. Wrapped up in a blanket and with a sippy cup!

My DS age 2 loves playing with prams and baby dolls my DP hates it but I just ignore him. They are the first thing he goes for at nursery. He also loves playing with his sister's toy kitchen.

I've also had my NDN telling my DD age 4 that she shouldn't be playing with trains and cars because they are boys toys its so silly and annoying.
Once when we were out and my DD showed a woman her pirate bracelet and she said why are you wearing that? Your a girl. My DD just gave her this face

I am all for anything that encourages enthusiasm and imagination. Nothing wrong with a pram fora boy, if that's what he enjoys!

They would have been shocked at how much my ds (1) enjoyed it when my aunt sang him ymca then (and we all joined in) ..

I rather like this cartoon

My mum did buy ds a toy work bench but I think it was more in desperation to find something we didn't have (I've kept everything of dd's for him and she got alot of presents from relatives partly due to having been a sick baby I think - they are "boys'" and "girls'" things).

I remember my ds being desperate for a toy pram and, when he got money for his birthday, he chose a cute navy blue one.
He's now 17 and definitely a red blooded alpha male, but also a lovely young man (if I say so myself) with a wonderful caring attitude.
There's nothing wrong with dolls prams for boys, in the same as girls play with cars and trains.

Haha this reminds me of the time i was babysitting 2yo nephew and we called into a charity shop. He noticed a little pink pushchair designed for kids and he screamed the place down when we went to leave without...so I bought it for him.

When Sis came to collect him and saw it she said "oh god, DP isn't gonna like that" then I heard he'd gone mental because I was apparently trying to turn his son into a "poofter"

...but I was immensely pleased to discover he couldn't prise the pushchair off nephew and ultimately it became nephews favourite toy, which nephew displayed to BIL's 'macho' mates

YNBU DS 19 months also loves a pram and often tootles up and down the path with his 6 year old sisters old toy pram, I think it's so cute! Last time I went into town I saw a little boy about 3 maybe walking with his dad pushing a toy pram, o thought how refreshing

They are being ridiculous and quite stupid.
Almost all toddlers love pushing a pram around, both my boys did and ds1 (5yrs old) still does, he has a doll too and loves babies and baby animals.
They also love pushing around the pretend shopping trolley and toy lawnmower.
I hate that people go along with gender stereotypes. I treat my boys as the individuals they are. They have varied interests, play with boys and girls equally and know there is no such thing as boys and girls toys/colours.
No wonder so many men think parenting and housework is women's work! They've been taught it since they were a baby!

YABU.

How is going to grow into the kind of husband that comes home from work demanding dinner if you keep treating him like he might be a normal dad one day? You are ruining his chance to realise that parenting and women's work is demeaning and worthless.

YANBU!

Also if you could get him a toy hoover and washing machine that would potentially make the world a very slightly better place in a few decades.

I'd be furious if someone told me parenting wasn't masculine, I certainly wouldn't buy into it.

A toy hoover is next on the list as he is fond of playing with the real one!

My DS had one of those little toy fold-up buggies. It was the best thing ever for walking long distances, as he'd walk forever when pushing that.

In the park he also loved pushing the real pushchair by himself, which to oncomers would look like it was self-propelled as he was too small to be seen behind it, and I'd be walking beside it but not touching it.

Felyne I love that cartoon and tried to find it to post on this thread!

The little boys where i work all make a beeline for the prams is your brother a dad yet does he not push a pram

Nothing wrong with it at all.

These threads always tend to make me laugh though because it seems like a battle to be the most liberal and self congratulatory for not succumbing to those pesky gender roles

He has a pram, good, no big deal.

Nothing wrong with it all. It's all about initiating role play. Men push prams don't they, and look after babies.
Some people really are so uneducated about these things
Pushing a pram isn't going to make him gay. The gay gene is determined at conception not because a little boy dare shows his sensitive side,, by holding a doll and pushing a pram, and if it did make them gay. So bloody what. What's wrong with being gay.

Yanbu this makes me rage. I have a girl who loves blue and a boy who loves pink! Let kids play with whatever they like. My friends girl raided all our toy cars the other day then said "I love cars. I'm not allowed boys cars at home." I won't repeat what I said to her mother....

It is a thing with wheels that moves! all children surely love that! it moves

yadnbu

People like that give me the rage. Of course he can play with a pram, same as a girl can play with diggers and tractors. it's a TOY ffs.

So I take it they wouldn't approve of my DS2 (4) riding around on a pink bike or wanting to buy a purple hairband because his big sisters were getting them?

DD2 (8) was obsessed with tractors from the ages of 2-4 but is the most girly girl now. There was a boy in her class who insisted on wearing a snow white costume every day at nursery and now fights and plays football.

Children play with what they have and learn to accept others that way. I hate gender stereotypes and have been know to pick people up on it occasionally regularly

DH pushes a pram so of course DS wanted one too. I'm not too worried that this might make him a dad one day

I think having children has made me way more aware of militant about the way that both girls and boys are told right from the start what they should and shouldn't do gender - wise.