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To feel hurt that my lovely dog licking someone caused such distress.

637 replies

sweetgrape · 21/06/2015 14:12

He's just a big affectionate softy, the only trouble is he thinks everyone loves him. We went for our walk this morning in the park and sat down on a bench for a rest. We'd only been sat down a minute or so and this woman sits down next to me. We were just chatting about the weather when all of a sudden she jumped up shrieking, "ahhh the dog just licked my leg"
Now I know not everyone loves dogs but i thought it was a bit of an over reaction. I did apologise but I felt kind of sorry for my dog, who seemed to have a bit of a hurt look on his face. Wabu to have felt sorry for my dog or should I have felt more sorry for the woman?

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OvidWasMyFishmonger · 22/06/2015 13:29

"Yeah, I'm a bored housewife. How original.

Why do you think I'm lying?"

Because it's difficult to believe that someone would be that much of a cunt and nigh on impossible to believe that someone would be that much of a cunt AND have three friends who were sufficiently depraved to support such cuntish behaviour.

Is it raining where you are? Can't you get the washing on the line? Time on your hands?

prorsum · 22/06/2015 13:30

Ovid And you call me a psychopath? PM me and we can meet up. This thread needs to go into classics.

SirChenjin · 22/06/2015 13:30

You have no way of knowing whether someone is rational (according to your definition) though - so not helpful to tell those people to get a fucking grip/stop being so hysterical.

As for not sitting next to a dog - there may be ne seats left elsewhere, they may have simply needed to sit down, they may not have expected the dog to lick. Again, no need to hand anyone a grip - of the fucking variety or otherwise.

Gottagetmoving · 22/06/2015 13:31

She over reacted - sounds a bit mad as she invaded your space to sit there

She didn't invade OP's space by sitting on a public bench! They are made to seat more than one person.

prorsum · 22/06/2015 13:33

You're completely bonkers. A dog got kicked because the owner did not rein it in. The parents of children were content I put their interests before a dog. You are only concerned with the dog. I was concerned with the kids, the humans, the small people, who were made to feel uncomfortable by a dog.

You cannot understand that and it speaks volumes about you.

prorsum · 22/06/2015 13:34

Forgot to add. It is spitting a bit but I've got a dryer.

OvidWasMyFishmonger · 22/06/2015 13:35

No prorsum I didn't call you a psychopath but you may call yourself it if you like. I asked if you realised that kicking a dog for coming over to your table to be fed, apart from being a criminal act for which you could and should receive a sentence, is a completely disproportionate response of a psychopathic proportions.

I didn't call you a cunt either, before you ask. I said it's nigh on impossible to believe that someone would be that much of one.

prorsum · 22/06/2015 13:38

Well that's ok then. How were you going to ensure I would be eating soft food?

Call me what you like. You have not addressed the behaviour of the dog or owner because you don't care.

MrsV2012 · 22/06/2015 13:38

I would also be annoyed if a dog licked me...anything that happily spends the day sniffing dog shit, licking its own knob, bollocks and arsehole isn't welcome to put it's mouth on me Grin

SirChenjin · 22/06/2015 13:39

Ovid - to be fair, that's tantamount to calling someone a cunt and a psycopath. Don't play the innocent.

PintOfJohnSmiths · 22/06/2015 13:40

I love dogs, but i don't want one licking me after its probably licked its own arsehole. No thanks!

Pastaeater · 22/06/2015 13:40

MrsV2012 - you have summed up my feelings perfectly there!

SirChenjin · 22/06/2015 13:41

Fsir point MrsV Grin

SirChenjin · 22/06/2015 13:41

fair

TheRealMaryMillington · 22/06/2015 13:45

I do not agree with dog-kicking, under any circumstances

but I do agree with this:
WHY can dog owners not understand that not everyone loves their beloved pets?

The number of times my kids and I have been jumped up at by large/muddy/stinky/slobbery/snappy (dlete as appropriate) dogs only to be told "oh he's lovely,wouldn't hurt a fly" like it's my problem that I am not enjoying it. I'm sure these dogs are not out of control, they are just in my personal space, uninvited.

Same with the lady on the bench. I wouldn't want to be licked. So I wouldn't get in proximity of the dog or engage with it. But to be "hurt" that the dog caused distress is entirely incomprehensible to me, even if the lady was a bit bats disproportionate in her response.

Downtheroadfirstonleft · 22/06/2015 13:51

It is irrelevant why the woman didn't want to be licked, your dog should have been under sufficient control to have prevented it.

Why shouldn't she have sat on the same bench? She probably assumed that you wouldn't let your dog be antisocial. You did the wrong thing OP allowing this to happen to her.

VanitasVanitatum · 22/06/2015 13:52

It's not like you licked her.. What a weirdo.

PintOfJohnSmiths · 22/06/2015 13:52

I wish there were parks normal people could go to where we didn't have to put up with the bad behaviour of other peoples dogs

This is one of the best threads ive ever seen, i literally have tears streaming down my face Grin

OvidWasMyFishmonger · 22/06/2015 13:55

I really think that the OP is pulling the collective MN leg about her dog being hurt and offended. She knows just what this forum is like as soon as the word dog is mentioned.

Costacoffeeplease · 22/06/2015 13:56

And we're back to dogs jumping up - not those lying quietly under a bench

It's not for me to decide if someone has a reason to be afraid/allergic etc, but if they know they are, then don't sit next to a dog!

It has been explained several times there were plenty of other dog free benches nearby. The lady was not apparently ill/distressed/about to faint/overcome with heat or exhaustion, and she was aware the dog was there as she commented on him. He was on a lead, not bouncing, circling, growling, biting, jumping up or in any other way out of control - apart from a lick on the ankle

Can we get this bit clear and stop going round in circles and inventing more and more unnecessary and distracting details

prorsum · 22/06/2015 13:59

Still waiting Ovid. Explain yourself.

Judydreamsofhorses · 22/06/2015 14:07

I love dogs and don't really mind being licked, but I've more than once jumped in fright when I've had a dog's cold wet nose or slobbery tongue unexpectedly plonked on my bare leg or whatever. I bet the woman just got a bit of a scare and didn't mean it to be hurtful.

OvidWasMyFishmonger · 22/06/2015 14:09

"Still waiting Ovid. Explain yourself."

Explain myself? To YOU?! Stroll on.

I don't need to "explain myself" to you or to anyone and frankly if you haven't the ability to understand why kicking a non-threatening dog is both illegal and immoral, as well as potentially dangerous to you and to the four children you had with you when this non existent incident took place there's no point in me wasting my time trying to get it through to you.

You're looking for attention and validation and I'm bored of you now.

I'm not bothering to engage with you again.

SirChenjin · 22/06/2015 14:11

OK Costa - so she simply didn't like being licked. Fair dos. No need for any fucking grips or questionning someone's rationality, is there?

Main thing is that Barney hasn't had to go for counselling to get over his hurt feels - so it's all good.

SirChenjin · 22/06/2015 14:12

Are you off to hang out ypur washing Ovid? Grin

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