calling current partner by ex name. acceptable?

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or AIBU?

even though it was a slip of the tongue I couldn't help feeling pissed off.

we were out to dinner with friends, 6 of us there and at the end of the meal dp called me by exw name. everyone heard and there was this moment where they all shut up and looked at me...we were leaving anyway so I just said 'no dp, my name is X get it right' said my goodbyes and we left.

I just don't think there is any need - maybe at the start of a relationship, yes - but not when you've been together for years and are an eatablished couple.

I felt kind of embarrassed and disappointed. dp didn't even apologise really, he was quite blaze about it and said 'well I was with her for 8 years, of course im used to saying her name'

I don't know why it bothered me so much, but it really did.

for me it was like he was happy, a little loose-lipped, relaxed so her name was the one that naturally came out.

over thinking perhaps, but just how I feel.

I call my kids the wrong name, ds some times calls me nana, I call dh my brothers name sometimes.

He should have apologised, but also when someone is visibly angry over a mistake, I find it hard to apologise. Just because I feel like i accepting what I did was awful, when it was just a small mistake.

I called dp by exh's name once by accident but it was because I'd just got off the phone to exh. I was completely apologetic and felt awful about it, dp didn't seem to care and was just like 'don't worry about it'

Perhaps a bit of an overreaction, but you felt the way you felt.

Just be glad you aren't my step mother, who my grandmother called by my mother's name often. And never apologized beyond 'Oops, silly me.'

DoILookLikeIGiveAFuck Did grandmother have a slight twinkle in her eye as she 'apologised'?

My DGM gets though about half a dozen family memeber's names before she gets mine right

My DGM calling me by every female, cousin, daughter and granddaughters name is NOT the same as if my DP called me by their ex's name

Your feelings were totally justified. And it's just one of those things. So, yeah, feel hurt and say something reasonable - both of which you did - but then you just have to sit with it, I'm afraid. There's no accounting for the weird shit brains do sometimes

Do you think he was nonchalant because he felt a bit bad & didn't know what to say? Or does he not bother that much about your feelings?

My dad was best man at his brother's wedding and proposed the toast to his brother's first girlfriend, not his new wife ????

It's recorded on their wedding video, lest they ever forget that excruciatingly embarrassing moment.

mil why? It's a slip of the tongue! Why is it mistake when a dgm does it, but not a boyfriend

Sympathies.
Hard also because it was in public.
I also found it difficult when my boyfriend called me his ex's name during sex.

mileend- it's absolutely the same. I'd be interested to hear why you think otherwise.

My mum very cleverly married 2 men with the same first name

I've done it in the past. Depends on how long the gap is between them tbh. Relatively recent- not too bad. A few years, a bit harder to explain.

The actual mistake is the same, like I said, slip of the tongue.

But to call your wife by your ex's name implies you still think of them/have them on your mind.
My DGM gets through about 4 names before she gets to mine. I don't expect an apology. I have accidentally called a current DP by the ex's name and just said 'oh shit sorry!'
I dont see why he wouldn't apologise for it.

I divorced my ex years ago and have been remarried for almost 10 years.

I still occasionally call my husband by my ex's name. We had children together (he died) so it might be because we talked a lot that I often slipped up and used the wrong name as he was still a big part of my life.

Thankfully my husband doesn't care because he knows it is a mistake and means nothing.

However, I am not so sure I would be ok with it if he called me by his ex's name in public. It would have embarrassed me so I understand how you feel, even if I am guilty of it myself.

TeAmoReally I don't remember, grandmother died years ago, but knowing her? Absolutely!

My MIL allows used to mix up names and frequently called me by the cleaning lady's name without any intention of being rude to either her or me, I might add

My old boyfriend called me by his exDW's name - he was mortified, I thought it was funny

An accidental slip of the tongue is acceptable. Awkward, yes, but nothing to get upset about. It happens!
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The only way to avoid this is to stay with the same partner all your life, but that's never going to happen unless you get lucky first time!

My DH calls my 3 sons by all their names plus the dog's name until he gets the right one!

My exH called me by his sister's boyfriend's doberman's name a few times. Didn't go down well hence the 'ex'!