I know I am but I just need to get it off my chest

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Dh and I have had his siblings and cousins over totalling 8 adults plus our 2 year old for a barbeque. About 8pm they decided they'd go off into town for drinks etc and catch the bus in 20 mins. Assumed I'd just be staying here with 2 year old, which of course I have as it's not like I can arrange babysitting with no notice. I thought we'd be having drinks (soft for me as 8 months pregnant) at home as siblings are staying over too. Suddenly I'm home alone with a house to tidy, no invitation to join them and not enough time to arrange otherwise. Feel royally pissed off and left out - would have been nice to have been considered seeing as I've spent all day hosting them and they are staying here. Dh is away for work next week too so it would have been nice to have company tonight. Will get over it but if I don't vent then I will def bu to dh when he gets back

I don't think I would be able to avoid making my feelings clear in this instance. Especially if I were eight months pregnant. It is the way they just buggered off without acknowledging you.

Do make sure you head out in th morning, they are being ur

YANBU but don't let your anger spoil your bath. Your plan to leave the clearing up and early shift to your DH is spot on.

I wonder if DH did have the decency to apologise.

How are things this morning?

He came home quite early. He did indeed apologise for springing it on me and he got up once in the night with dd as she had a nightmare then up with her this morning. Siblings are still in bed....I explained why I was upset to be left out which he understood and has written me and iou for when I am ready to go out after baby! We are okay but it's the last time I host an event for his family for some time!

Hope you're doing sommat nice today OP and are leaving that thoughtless, mean bunch to it.

We had this happen, with a crucial difference, we tend to split the party, at least one or two people stay with the designated baby watch, the others go, so there are two parties and nobody is left home alone. Then the babysitting party can have breakfast in town. Yanbu, I'd have been livid. Good to see dh tried to make up for it though.