To go to groups everyday?

[Pearl2015]

I have a 4 and 6 year old and a 4 month old baby. I am very lucky that the 4 month old has slept through the night since 4 weeks old so I have more energy than I did with the other two. I take him to a group every morning after dropping the other two at school, come home for lunch then after cleaning up lunch do an hour or so walk with ds in the buggy (only way he will nap and if he doesn't nap he can't make it to the end of the day) which leaves me with 45 mins to have a cuppa and recover from the walk! (I am unfit) before the school run.
My house is a mess and unorganised. My mil said if I only went to one group a week I would have time to look after my family and home properly. I had never thought of it like this. With the first two kids I didn't have the school run so we went to groups/park etc in the morning and then did housework/cooking etc in the afternoons. Aibu? Do I just have to accept that ds will do less activities/park etc than his sisters? If I did all the house stuff in the week and only took him to one group we would have time for us all to do things at the weekend. I'm scared he will feel bored if we spend most of the week indoors though! My own mum thinks I am being silly as taking babies and toddlers to activities is a modern thing, she said in her day mums were too busy cooking cleaning and looking after the family to do things like that. I'm scared ds will miss out though, all my friends go to groups everyday and don't seem to do any domestic stuff! I would really like a nice clean organised home though and home cooked meals every night?

YANBU. I agree with PPs who said it's about you/your sanity, rather than entertaining a 4 month old. I also think your MIL needs a right royal slap (perhaps just metaphorical though ) for saying you'd be able to look after them "properly" if you didn't do the groups- how rude!!! Your DM also needs to accept that things are different these days and, thankfully, there are more social activities to support new Mums (regardless of whether this is your first or third child). The thing you have to work out is whether or not you want to carry on going to as many groups as you currently do.

When I had DS, I was barely at home. I had been critically ill, was struggling with the after effects and needed to be out and about to avoid being home alone and wallowing in sadness, worry and self pity. I firmly believe that those months enabled me to move on, as I had support and felt like a normal parent worrying about nappy rash etc. rather than dwelling on my situation. Plus I gained two absolutely amazing friends out of it who are still very dear friends 9 years on. It's only as I look back on years later that I see how vital it was for my recovery. My house could still do with a jolly good deep clean though

Blimey, that was a long'un!!

Groups = life savers.

cooking & cleaning, Why are those supposed to be wonderfully rewarding? Never were for me.

misscarla I am really interested in the 20 minute a day clean! What do you do? That would be achievable for me if me and dh did a big clean first!