To be annoyed that my childcare has booked a holiday?

[BlueBananas]

I'm currently expecting DC3, when I give birth for various reasons I want both DP & my Mum in the labour room with me (and they both want to be there and both want each other to be there) so we agreed a few weeks ago that my Stepdad/DC's grandad would have the kids while I'm in labour
This was all agreed and he was quite happy to do it
Then my brother tells me that him & my Stepdad have booked a 4 day golfing holiday flying out on my due date!?!
I haven't said anything but AIBU to think this is 1. A bit rude and 2. Plain odd?!
No idea what I'm going to do childcare wise now!

Surely you just ask your dm or your dp to babysit while your in labour. can't really see the problem. But then had ds with no one other than medical staff and it was fine.

pumpkin that's not what I mean
We are at the the point where we regularly give birth in a hospital setting because even in primitive tribes (afaik) women don't usually give birth alone...but instinctively I wanted to be so maybe it comes from a long standing social cultural thing... other mammals -even social ones (afaik) don't seem to have the same.... guess maybe cos they can't offer the support that human interaction can? Don't know...just curious.

A home birth is out of the question as I'm high risk so I've got to be in hospital
My mum was at the birth of both my other DC, I want her (and she wants to be) at this one because I nearly died during my last labour and I needed my Mum, also DP is a bit rubbish with blood and stuff so if I hemorrhage again he will just pass out and I'll be alone
So most likely I'll have to have my Mum with me and DP will have to have the kids, just so annoying When I thought we'd found a way that suits everyone
When my brother mentioned the holiday I said "oh that's my due date" and he said "yeah I know but due dates don't really mean anything do they" so I'm presuming this was the conversation he had with our Stepdad
I'll ask him why of course but not a lot can be done now it's booked can it

Leave DP home then, when your Stepdad has in action, rather than word, told you what he rather be doing!

I cant think of anything less I would rather do than give birth with either my mum or MIL present

I gave birth once with h and once on my own... Much preferred the latter!!!!
Hope my dcs don't want me there.

If you are high risk could ask to be induced on a set date?

Practicalities of it just mean it's not possible, so it's best to appoint one as babysitter. That's life - you won't care who's in there once it all gets going anyway.

That's really off. I can understand they might be frustrated if you went overdue and it turned out they could have gone, but he made a commitment and now they've left you with either horrible uncertainty or having to make other arrangements. And to not have spoken to you first? All pretty thoughtless

I had my mum with me for thr births of all my dc. She is a former intensive care nurse and I felt that if anything went wrong, she would be the best person to have around.

l was induced with my last dc and had my mum and mil nattering to me all day while I was in labour. That was hard going, but turfing them out would hurt their feelings so I'm glad I didn't.

I look at my gorgeous dd, who wants me to do everything with her - why is it such a leap to think that a daughter might want her mum to be with her at the most important moment of her life?