DP makes it sound like he hopes I fail. AIB too sensitive??

[Marilynz]

Last night I said to DP "it's my results day tomorrow" (I'm 8 weeks from finishing my degree and qualifying). His immediate response was "oh! What if you fail, then it's game over!"
Jeez, thanks.
He's done this a few times, like when I try and big up our future post qualifying he's responded with "yeah well, you've not passed yet have you". Etc etc. it's not like I have a history of failing everything either, it just comes across like he wants me to! Or am I just bring too sensitive?

Sounds like a bad joke.

Good luck, OP! Report back.

He has a chip on his shoulder because he doesn't have a degree. i've met a few like this before. they could be earning millions but they still have a grudge that they didn't get the grades for uni/college in the first place.

Good luck for today

"He has a chip on his shoulder because he doesn't have a degree. i've met a few like this before. they could be earning millions but they still have a grudge that they didn't get the grades for uni/college in the first place."

Interesting you say the grudge-holding is about the grades..

I've known a few people who had the grades but couldn't do a degree for other reasons - eg: from a very poor family with no breadwinners, bad credit, whatever couldn't afford to pay or take on debt before they had to start bringing in money, and it seemed to make them hungry in their earlier careers, but they rarely seem to bother with the degrees/consider them vitally important afterwards.

So maybe the bitter ones are the ones who feel they still couldn't get a degree later. Which is ironic, since (presumably unbeknownst to them) it would be difficult to find a person so thick they couldn't get a degree in something.

He was playing on your pre-results nerves, probably remembering his own stumbling blocks to further education. Jealousy and insecurity happen to us all.
Just remember YOU did the work, YOU sat the exams and when YOU give your victory speech at the family dinner or whatever, you can just graciously mention his "unwavering support" and look him in the eye. That's all you need, IMO.

Yeah know i did zone in on the grade element of not pursuing a degree. yeah you're right, there are many reasons why people do not do a degree.

insufficient grade attainment seems to irk in my experience. but that's just what i've seen myself.

I passed. 100%. Thanks for the support guys.

Well done! How has misery guts taken the news?!

Congratulations

He's barely mentioned it. Infact, he's now not talking to me because I'm upset that he's comparing the importance of our honeymoon to a bloody festival that we go to EVERY year.

I'm with sylvanians - he should be CELEBRATING YOU. I wouldn't see a future with someone who actively rained on my parade. Seriously, this is a big day for you - a life moment. And he's sulking?!

Sounds as if he's a bit jealous of your academic success. Or maybe he's just pessimistic by nature and doesn't want you to be disappointed. I'd try not to make a big thing of it unless it keeps on and then it is a big thing and then you'll have to reconsider your future together.

He's barely mentioned it. Infact, he's now not talking to me because I'm upset that he's comparing the importance of our honeymoon to a bloody festival that we go to EVERY year.

so its definitely jealousy then and he is using your upset as an excuse to punish you for doing so well. What an arse. As I said above, I am a "wait until it happens" person but once you found out you had passed I would have been straight out for the Champagne!

How does it make you feel? Any thoughts on how to deal with it? I suspect its going to get worse as you qualify and start your career........ beware of deliberate sabotage.....

Well done

Congratulations!

Congratulations!

IMO, the most important predictors of whether a relationship will last the distance - and still make you happy and ready to take life on through the big challenges of careers, children, financial planning - are these:

kindness
supportiveness
sense of humour

Your partner seems thoroughly lacking in all three.

May I suggest that - if you currently have no children and no real ties - that you think REALLY REALLY hard whether he's the one?

Because he sounds very much like not a keeper.

Well celebrate with us OP because that is great news.

My DB is a bit like this. Years ago I had to take a Science GCSE as an adult for a course I was doing. Yeah I know that is pretty easy for an adult but I did actually study and take it seriously. When I got an A* the only thing he said to me "yeah well they've dumbed them down these days haven't they, anyone can pass them."

Fortunately the rest of my family are much nicer!

Huge congrats!

Have you posted about this before?

Congratulations, OP. Great result !

Next step, I think, is to dump some excess baggage asap: your DP sounds like he's always going to hold you back and belittle you.
He is not worthy of you.

Congratulations. Sure you want to marry misery guts?

Congratulations! 100%? Wow!

He sounds familiar, have you posted about him before?

Please don't marry him, he's a cunt. And he'll always be a cunt. You sound lovely, you can do better.

It's you again.

Every single thread you post about this dude screams that he's a bell end. If you just want to vent then that's fine but posting thread after thread about how much of a dick he's being to you isn't going to make him behave the way you want.

And congrats on your results.

Congratulations!

Is this Glastonbury Man? Get rid if he is. You've achieved something brilliant and the focus should be on celebrating and making you feel amazing, not passive aggressive controlling shite.

Congratulations on your results! He's an arse by the way.