To ask you what was the nicest thing anyone has said to you?

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Following on from the tactless thread, maybe something to cheer us up.
On just giving birth to DS. DH DM DF & DMIL all in delivery room making a fuss of DS.
My DF walked straight up to me and said "I am so proud of you and I have never seen you look as beautiful as you do right now".

DH wrote in a birthday card - you make my life worth living

which is a bit scary if taken literally but DH is foreign so I assume he means, I am nice to be around. It made me so happy I pinned it to the fridge.

and a friend said - thank you, you've given me so much strength.

I teach a skill to children, and do a certain number of lessons a week at a not-for-profit rate for kids who are from families who have a low income.

They provide me with all the positivity and self esteem I need in return. I received a text tonight from an outwardly hard faced 15 year old who I taught yesterday.

"Thankyou soooo much for all your help. The hours you've put in with me have made a massive difference to my . You make me feel like I can do ANYTHING."

I cried. I'm crying again.

When my elderly uncle was very ill I went to visit him in hospital and took along a friend of his who can no longer drive.
It was a difficult visit, my uncle was drifting in and out of consciousness and wasn't making sense a lot of the time. I'm not great with hospitals/illness

On the way home my uncle's friend said that he felt that I had been amazing at the bedside and handled a difficult situation sensitively and made it easier for everyone.

When my uncle died his friend rang me and said that I had made their last meeting so much easier because I had been so brilliant.

I wasn't, but he was so kind he made me feel as if I had managed to do the right things.

My mum came to first visit DD when she was 3 days old. Stayed for 4/5 days and she really looked after us, cooking and cleaning and being awesome. When she left she said, with tears in her eyes, "thank you for making me a granny".
My mum doesn't do emotion. Has never said she loves me. Ever. So this was the biggest and nicest thing she's ever done/said.

My DS (5yo) bounded up to me & wrapped his warm sticky hands around my face, gave me a huge kiss and said 'mummy you make the best dinners in the world'

He luffs his food

Just before my older son (aged 4) went for grommets putting in, the anaesthetist asked him who he wanted with him while he went to sleep, and he said he wanted Daddy. Anaesthetist jokingly said to DS that was wise as mummies can be a bit hopeless (meaning tearful); DS was very indignant saying 'My mummy is NOT hopeless!'

What a wonderful thread, OP. Mine is a pal today. She's had a shit time recently. She said 'I live days with boy'.

My stroppy teen sent me a buzzfeed link today about how you know when your mum is your best friend. Have screenshotted it!

Before we had DC, me and my DH took a holiday together to Turkey and had the most amazing 2 weeks. We had been trying to conceive for a while, and I'd had a MC 5 months earlier, so it had been quite a tough time for us.

At the end of the holiday, as we got in the cab to take us back to the airport, he turned and said to me "if we weren't already married, I'd ask you to marry me right now".

He's not usually a romantic sort, and I'll never forget it.

(And the day after we got home I discovered I was pregnant with DD).

Just before my gorgeous dh passed away, he said to me that he was honoured and privileged to call me his wife. He made me feel like the luckiest woman on earth. I miss him terribly but I know we will be together soon.

We don't any more, but we used to be foster parents, doing emergency and relief fostering (which mainly meant a child coming to us for one weekend a month).

The first placement we ever had did not go well, and ended when he literally begged not to have to come to our house again. It's the placement we always felt guilty about, and always felt it was the one where we made all our mistakes because we were new to it.

4 years later, a knock on our door. It's him. Now in late teens. Having totally turned his life around and (finally) back in education and (huzzah) achieving. Said he passed near our place for work experience and recognized it, so had come back to come and find us, because he wanted us to know that although he had hated it at the time, it was the first place he'd ever been in that felt calm, and this is what had started him on his route to changing things and taking a different path.

I cried my eyes out after he left!!!

Ds telling me that he hoped his dad hadn't tried to take the credit for the result of all the therapy work I had done with him. He did but the fact that ds knows and appreciates the work makes it worth all the exhausting and emotionally draining effort.

Can I have another one? It's got a MN theme.

I got into a MN fight yesterday (now day before yesterday). I didn't especially intend to, I don't think of myself as a particularly challenging MN-er, but I agreed with a thread about weddings and almost the rest of MN didn't. And I was singled out (named and quoted) for being superior, prim, smug, clutching my pearls, etc (all fine, and they're entitled to their opinion). But I got a bit locked-in (my fault).

Anyway, like I said, this post was about being married. And I went to bed way, way too late (like tonight, apparently!)
and I woke up really early, and I suddenly remembered. In order to pay for my wedding, my dad sold his (very cherished) classic car.

And I was FURIOUS. Because I wanted to be driven to the wedding in it.

And my dad's dead now. So I can't say "sorry you had to sell the car you'd waited all your life to buy so you could pay for the wedding I wanted" (it wasn't a high-spec wedding by any means - it was cheap and cheerful, just more than he could afford at that point without selling the car)

And he NEVER batted an eyelid. He just sold it. He apologized when I went bridzilla and said I'd wanted to ride in it on my day.

So this isn't something he said. But it's a lovely something he did. I've missed him a lot today

My DH, was terminal with a brain tumour and had memory issues, We had been looking at our wedding photos, later on,
I sat next to his bed, he pick up my hand held it gently and said "will you Marry me" of course I said yes!

My dd, age 3 -"I love you more than sausages" - and she really, really loved sausages...plus it was her first joke!

Frank that is so beautiful!

In the last few weeks, we have yet again, been going through a rough time as a family. People have been saying very kind things. A nurse told me she could see I have a beautiful kind soul.
My friends raised £1500 in 10 hrs for us and the comments on the "go fund me" page means so much - as much as the actual money, if not more.
It is lovely because I have had others in my lifemy father whom have said terrible things to me and I constantly have to keep those demons out of my head.
I think the biggest compliment is someone who I haven't seen in years said, I was a lovely mum and my mum would be ever so proud of me. I do hope so.

I've had PND twice and have ongoing mental health issues and have at times really struggled with the idea that it's ruining my DC's childhood having a Mum who's up one day and down the next. I mentioned this to my mum once who said "Rubbish, just look at how happy they are, that's not a fluke, it's because you're the most wonderful mother I've even known". We both cried

A couple of months in was on a date with now DH, walking for a taxi he grabbed my hand to stop me and said "I just wanted to make sure you know I'm going to have to marry you". Almost 10 years ago and still get butterflies thinking about it!

And currently in the middle of trying to teach 2yo DS not to interrupt, he came over the other day while I was in the middle of a conversation doing the "MummyMummyMUMMY" chant. Told him to wait and he went "Mummy, listen to me! It's 'portant!" Said "OK, what is it?" and he replied "You're beautiful Mummy" and skipped off. He can interrupt whenever he wants to tell me that!

SIL told me in front of a lot of people that she was proud to call me her brother.

DB's friends remarked that DD and I had the best father-daughter relationship they'd seen for a while. DB himself said "looks like you've cracked this being human thing" on the same occasion. That meant a LOT after 50+ years.

These are so lovely - I've welled up a few times!

The things that stick out for me were said at a dark time in my life when I was going through fertility treatment and subsequent miscarriages. Every appointment I had seemed to bring more bad news and I was feeling very negative about myself and the future. I went for a scan a couple of weeks after an ERPC procedure to check all was clear and the sonographer (who didn't know my history) gave me a full check over and exclaimed - "oh, you have lovely young-looking ovaries, lots of lovely follicles there" - honestly it was the first positive things said to me by a medical professional for a few years and it made my year and gave me so much hope!

Around the same time I had to change consultants and when I met my new one I told her about what had been going on and some big lifestyle changes I had made the previous year and she said "well done - that's great and it can't have been easy for you". It really caught me by surprise as it wasn't easy yet nobody, not even family members had acknowledged it.

They're rubbish in comparison to so many of the lovely stories already posted, but as I said they were little glimmers of positivity in a dark time and so they have stuck with me.

We were on holiday in Scotland and had gone to a reconstruction of an iron age house. There were a couple of other families there and we were listening intently (my older 2 DC love history). The man doing the tour came up to us at the end and said what lovely well behaved children we have. It meant a huge amount as DD1 has ASC and finds it hard to be still and quiet for any length of time.

Two that always stand out in my mind-

1. (Im a nanny.) coming back from playgroup one time, walking next to a friend and a woman I'd met 4 or 5 times at playgroup was walking a few steps in front of us. Friend said something (can't even remember what!) and I replied along the lines of "If I ever have kids......"

Woman in front spun on her heel and said "oh no, you MUST have children. I've seen you and if anyone was born to be a mother, you were" then ran off to catch her bus. I never actually saw her after this but I still hope to just to tell her what that meant to me.

I think of this often and it never fails to bring a smile to my face

1. I nannied for 6y for a family with 3 children (B.17 G.13 B. 9 G.7) and despite leaving two years ago, am very close to the family still, especially the girls.

Last year, their mum rang and said shed overheard the eldest say something to her aunt and she thought I'd like to know.

Aunt had said "oh you're such a lovely big sister" and she replied "I hope one day I'm as good a big sister to L as Lego is to me." When asked why, she replied "because no matter how horrible we were, she still loved us and we know how important we are to her, she always did everything she could to make all of us happy and I know I can text her with anything and she'll help"

We had some really rough times and it meant so much to know that I made some sort of impact

What a lovely thread.

This one always makes me laugh. 5yo DS came into the bathroom just as I was stepping out of the shower. He gave a me long look up and down, asked what my lady-garden was for, thought about it for a second or two and then said, "I think it rather suits you, mummy."

I have had at least three separate people tell me that I am the strongest person they know. I don't really know if that is a compliment or a simple fact that I have had to be due to repeated bad circumstances but it was nice to know that somebody had recognised how hard I was fighting to keep going against the odds.

A man I was involved with once told me " I know when you enter a room, I don't need to hear you or see you, I know because every single time, your smell makes my dick jump to attention and my pulse race.". He was quite possibly the sexiest man I have ever encountered in my life and that was one of the few things that has ever made me go weak at the knees. I remember the first time we kissed, it was in the rain as we were running into a service station. There was so much electricity I thought my knickers might explode! I have no idea how much of it was down to that declaration.

I know my children love me for they tell me all the time. My youngest leaves me notes around the house saying how wonderful she thinks I am and even makes little poems up for me with hand drawn portraits of us together. Nothing has ever made me feel as truly adored as this