to wish my neighbour would, at the very least

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..take my friggin rubbish out EVERY time or, preferably, NOT AT ALL.

I have never asked him to do it. But he does. Irregularly. He's clearly just being kind, so I don't want to upset him by telling him to stop, but it's REALLY annoying when he's done it for 3 weeks, but then the morning I am late, and it is bin day, HE DOESN'T.
Or, he doesn't do it it for a bit, and when I whip out of the front door in my underwear PJs to stick something in the bin, he has taken them all to the pavement.

First world problems folks, but AIBU?

Yes. Hth

Do you ever take his rubbish bin out?

Why so, gin?

No, I don't ever take his rubbish out. Should I? Fuck, have I missed some sort of etiquette thing?

He takes yours out, but only sometimes. You take his out never. YABU.

It's your bin, you should always assume that you have to take it out.

But I don't understand why everyone can't just take their own rubbish out!

This is not arranged. He just randomly does it.

Err take your own rubbish out? like a normal grown up.

Maybe he's noticed that some mornings you are late putting your bins out, so he's trying to be helpful. That's called 'being a nice neighbour'

YABU

Put his out from time to time.

Put it out the night before?

That IS my assumption bippity - until I get lulled into it being done for a few weeks.

I just don't understand his system.

Ashtray, sometimes HE puts it out the night before.

I am guessing he is either been kind or sick of bags of rubbish outside your door?

I wish I had your problem. No one ever takes my rubbish out, the lazy bastards. Just once in a while would be nice, but no, they just can't be arsed.

I don't HAVE bags of rubbish. I have a bin, a recycling box and a food box. All very neat.

I know he is being kind, which is why I just let him get on with it.

I just don't understand the system..

I get it OP.

If you were always responsible for your own bin, you'd have a routine and get it done and you'd know where it was when you needed it. He's being nice but it's not helpful to not reliably know where your bin is.

I have no idea how you could change it without causing great offence though.

Yes. That's exactly it Adventure

Yabu. He is trying to be kind.

I do sort of understand though. My neighbour takes out and returns my bin every week, and I have become so used to it that bin day has fallen out of my consciousness. So now I am totally reliant on my neighbour to do it, which seems unfair on him and makes me feel a bit useless into the bargain (newly single Mum trying to prove to myself I can do it all by myself).

"Put it out the night before?"

No, that's not allowed, the foxes get it and make a terrible mess. You can be fined here for putting the rubbish out too early.

I put my neighbour's bins back sometimes,not always. It's nice to be helpful.

He probably doesn't put your's out now and again to see if you will do it yourself and reciprocate his neighbourly kindness, by putting his out too. When you fail to do that, he continues to put your bin out. Until you are running late. This is his revenge and he will probably be sniggering behind his curtains.

But I live in a terrace Just..where do I draw the line?

And how the actual fuck does he know I am running late? It isn't externally apparent until I appear outside the door chivvying child into car. You thing he's bugged my house?

Just assume that it's your job to do it every week (as it is) then any time your lovely, lovely neighbour does it, it will be a nice bonus.

I hope you get him a superior Christmas minding.

I got him no Christmas minding. I got him a lovely childmade card and some wine though..

I really can't understand why you would even question if you are being unreasonable. It is so obvious that you are.