I have a ds from a previous relationship and am pregnant with my partner. We are engaged and have our wedding booked for November next year. I will go on maternity leave in January.
I must admit, we are not doing things by halves.... Pregnancy before wedding is enough, but we also are doing up the house, I am studying part time while working full time. When I go on ML, I will go from a £30k a year job to SMP at £139 a week. I currently have a saving pot for the wedding (which is being added to by our parents also), I have a saving pot for Christmas, and I have a little squirelled away saving pot for anything I may need while I am on ML. DH2B would never see me go without, I could ask for money at any given time and he wouldn't even ask what it was for. But when it comes around to things like his birthday, father's day or coffees with the other mums for example, I would like to be able to pay for these things myself. Not to mention my insistence to defend my independence to the death!!
Anyway, my point is when DS was born, he had everything, the completely done out nursery -that he never used- , all the best clothes etc, everything brand new. This time around, I am more of the opinion that no, baby doesn't need a nursery, no, we don't need to buy every 'oh my god that's so cute' outfit we see (because we will be inundated with clothes as gifts from our huge families and big social circle) ! Yes we can buy regular furniture from IKEA that isn't ''nursery furniture'' and is a lot more practical while it has all the added advantages of being purse friendly. The only thing I am worried about is that, this is my partner's pfb (as amazing as he is with DS) and he will want to splash out like most first timer's. Will I just be royally pissing on his parade in my attempts to be economical and realistic? Or do I let him go nuts like the bottle of pop that he is and let him enjoy this for the first time??? I'd be a right party pooper wouldn't I??