to be pissed off at her response? should I say something?

[waitaminutenow]

Long story short....my aunt had her first baby. We're very close as she's only 8 years older than me. Unfortunately the baby is very ill and to be honest up untill two days ago (and I suppose its still possible) we thought we would lose him.

Anyway my friend text me...asking to go to the park with our dd's on Friday. I told her was still abroad (where my aunt lives) as I had extended my stay due to the situation which I then explained in detail. Her response was.....'oh that sucks, catch up when you get back then?!'

AIBU to think 'that sucks' is the most shitty response to the situation I explained. A baby was possibly dying and she thinks that it sucks!! Do I say anything when I see her next? I didn't respond to the text as I was so taken aback! TIA

It does sound very ridiculous as a response when you contextualise it.... However I have a close friend with cancer and we aren't in really close contact as she has so much going on. So we text a couple of times a month and I'm forever reading back my replies to her and wanting to text again apologising as I've made something sound light, which I haven't meant but it's really really hard to express how you feel about something so serious in a text. And summarising five sentences into one just sometimes doesn't cut it. So maybe "that sucks" is supposed to just encompass everything she would want to say.

If she'd said 'that's awful' I doubt you'd have posted this. That is all 'that sucks' means. It's a little casual and American but I think it's actually well meant. She may also not have appreciated from a text quite how ill your baby cousin is. Concentrate on your family and give your friend the benefit of the doubt.

I think that you're slightly over reacting. It's really hard to know what to say in these situations. Hope baby does well.