moving back to save - does it work?-quick answers please!

[smalltownmoving]

NC- been here for over 10 years-
My dh and I having living in London for 10 years and have 2 DSs.
The stress of living in London at the moment is nearly breaking us.Financial stress, work stress, childcare and school stress
We've sat down and discussed splitting up. with the plan being that he would move out and we'd try to work out an amicable solution.
My salary wouldn't cover everything and we are nearly at the end of our tenancy so I would move closer to school and he'd get a room somewhere.
Its not that we don't want this to work but we have no support network here and are rowing because of this stress

or
move back to our hometown - Weymouth

pros- small town where we know people and most of my school friends still live- Know the schools- housing cheaper- better lifestyle by the beach so DSs could have a more outdoors lifestyle

cons- its a small town where everyone knows everyone- less job opportunities no moving jobs quickly- lack of museums/cinema/parks

We both agree that we could try this and if need be split up later. as our main goal is to give the children a more supportive slower lifestyle and not a stressfilled household as it is at the moment

AIBU to think this could work?

Why would you not move there together? Honestly, if you want to make things work, going into a situation where you have such different experiences is not going to help. He will be in a room somewhere, working and providing the money; you will be settling the children in schools etc, running the house he is never in and not meeting the family and friends who will provide you with a support and social network.

If you are serious about splitting up, then this is not an issue, really, but if you are talking about living apart whilst still married to make things easier, I do think you need to consider your lives and pressures day to day will be very different from each other, which may also lead to tension.

hi rooneyroo you have misunderstood I believe. we would either split in London or move and settle together.

Move and settle together if you can, then. I think once you move apart, you still will have such different lives. My marriage we were together apart, and I think with children, it creates such an imbalance of who is doing what, that if you have an alternative, then take it.