To cut out my abusive stepdad

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My mum has been with her husband for 22 years, I was just two when they met. As children, my brother and I witnessed his violent temper, rages and my mother and his alcohol induced arguments and fights. I remember one morning my mum had a cut on her lip and I asked her what happened and she said she fell. I knew then at 10 years old, that he had hurt her.

He has been emotionally and sometimes physically abusive to myself and my brother, my brother had to move out because of him and his bullying and i'm also about to move out. He threatened to punch me in the face the other day because I told him to get off his ass when I got him the wrong chocolate from the fridge and he expected me to get the right one.

AIBU to cut him out of my life?

Yanbu he sounds like an awful person. Does your mum want to leave him?

I think it is important that you do.

She doesn't, they are oth very co-dependent on each other. He is an alcoholic and she is not far behind him :(

Not unreasonable. Not in the slightest.

I think then it's time you take care of yourself and cut him out.

YANBU, utterly.

YANBU - He sounds like a violent, domineering nightmare. Hoping for speed and safety for you as you exit.