To think it's rude to say you're not attending a retirement drinks party because you 'have a life'

[balletnotlacrosse]

Our lovely and very popular boss is retiring next week. He has organised drinks and finger food in the conference room and his wife and children and grandchildren will be attending as well as most of his colleagues.

When I asked a colleague if she was going to it she just smiled disdainfully and said 'God no, I have a life'.

AIBU to have felt like kicking her up the arse? Fair enough if she's busy, can't get a babysitter or somesuch. But a rude, superior response like that just strikes me as obnoxious.

It is her boss, her boss with his good heart has kindly thought of this person and invited them with all his goodwill and is probably really looking forward to seeing everyone there. It's plain rude and unkind. What is the world coming to?

She's probably one of those idiots who turns her nose up at the very idea of socialising with anyone from work. Narrow minded and silly.

I wouldn't say it's just rude.

It's fucking ignorant, and I would have said so too

I worked with someone like this, a very rude and superior person.

Where I work is a huge organisation, there's usually a hundred plus at any given retirement, more if the person has moved around the offices. She's retiring herself soon and there's no one I know planning on going (not sure there's even going to be anyone organising it). She's reaping what she sowed now.

YANBU - she was very rude. If she didn't want to go, then she could easily have graciously said "Really sorry but I already had something else on that night / day" and not go without being so downright rude.
Still, she'll be lonely on her leaving do presumably.

Yes, very rude. I had a colleague who behaved in exactly the same way, until her husband died very suddenly, and she was revealed as almost friendless; it was work colleagues who organised the funeral and supported her. Karma, so true.

Yanbu, she's rude n mean. The get-together will probably be more enjoyable without her if she feels that way tho!

Rude.

Agree Justwater

People annoy me with that superior attitude as if they are to good for things what a rude woman

Yanbu

She is rude

Id have said 'oh that's good' and smiled

Very rude. I dont really socialise with people from work, its not my thing. So i understand that she woudnt want to go. BUT its rude to just say it like that! I would have just said ' sorry i already have plans, have a great night!'

Also she probably wouldnt be bothered about a party when she leaves etc. if she doesnt socialise with work its not exactly going to break her heart to not have a leaving do is it