Outside wees

[Meemoll]

We were walking home the other day through a churchyard near our house, and my son (6) was suddenly desperate for a wee. We decided to try and do a quick outside one as there was no one around, but then a family came round the corner, my son was mortified and finished up quickly, but the mum gave me such an evil look and didn't return my greeting at all. Have we committed some massive social no-no? It was a one off and was a real emergency or else we'd have tried to get home.

I used to play in the graveyard when I was a kid. Me and my friend once decorated one of the graves with wild flowers and twigs. A lady gave us 2p each.

We used to scrump apples from the trees there.

Graveyards can be fun places and the inhabitants never object

It was a wee. The dead don't give a monkeys. YANBU.

Graveyards aren't there for the benefit of dead people. For fuck's sake.

My problem with these emergency wees reported on mumsnet is that it never seems to cross the parent's mind to guide their child to an appropriate discreet location. Why against a bush, in the car park or the middle of the pavement? How many people would object to a small child weeing behind a bush? Many people passing wouldn't even realise what was going on if the parent and child are discreet. But some people do seem to think that whatever a small child does, short of hitting another child, is okay, case closed.

Well of course the dead people don't mind, but people visiting the dead people might. That's all.

Was coming back from the pub at 8 pm in road day light when this youth came round the corner as we're approaching.he went I to the corner and started to wee. I shouted .'oi' you could have waited till we got past'

Didn't dare say any more. His mates were waiting around the corner and I didn't want them starting on the blokes I was with.

Lout!

So yes perfectly acceptable for your little lad.

yy Charles

then they throw in the ridiculous "well dogs/cats/ farm animals.. "

dogs also eat their own shit or roll in fox poo and bark at the post man. I'd not let a kid do that

For a 6 year old it's grim. Anything past just toilet trained toddler age and there really is no need to let kids pee in public places.

Got it. It appears it was generally not acceptable. Thanks all!

Outside weeing is fine somewhere discreet but in a graveyard no. Never. It is a matter of respect. Not complicated at all. That is why the lady glared at you. YOU were being disrespectful.

This seems a thing at the moment. The other day a mum let her son open the car door in asda car park and pee out the car beside trolleys based on his age and happy giggling as he did it he was old enough to walk the 30secs to the toilet in the supermarket

Wouldn't both me either, he's only little.

venus

that's disgusting. People are getting so lazy with toilet training. If it's an emergency find somewhere discreet and get on with it. but when there's toilets nearby it's just lazy and grim tbh. whether they are 2 or 10.

no one has any inclination to even try and find a suitable spot if MN is to be believed

I'm fairly relaxed about most things but it was vile. The mum and gran sitting laughing in the car when they saw me walk over to get a trolley was

If your kids can't wait 10 seconds to find a suitable spot or walk to a toilet a shirt distance away then they are not toilet trained and the parents should be prepared for that and have planned the outings and stops accordingly. not just go about life as they would normally whilst letting kids pee at bus stops and in car parks.

(medical issues not counted here)

it isnt something that I even would bat an eye about

charlestonchaplin same as everything else, only the unreasonable things get reported. I took DD (2) for an emergency wee as I took her to the single toilet, but the toilet was occupied and I didn't think she could wait much longer! We went in an alleyway behind a bin, out of sight of anyone else.

In other news, I went to work and everyone was perfectly pleasant. On the way, everyone drove courteously. And even the children at work behaved themselves!