Wish he'd come home before sunrise

[7amWakeUp]

Have a 3 year old and a baby

For the last two months ish DH has been out about once a week and not coming home until 2am earliest but usually more like 5am, and stinks of drink the next day

Aibu to be so fed up of it I'm thinking of giving him an ultimatum?

It also was a perfect cover for seeing other women.

I don't think having a night out once a week - even until 5am- is an awful thing. But context is key. If it's impacting financially, or you are unable to have similar down time, or it's jeopardizing his job/income then yes it's an issue.

I'm interested in why this has started. That seems odd to me. For instance if his hobby was DJing and he still wanted a connection to that scene that would be understandable, but to suddenly start going out until 5am 2 months ago seems very odd.

I'm pretty certain I'd be fed up because that would be so alien to our lives that it'd definitely be a symptom of something more worrying. But it's hard to say without knowing the context and the impact it's having.

Shovetheholly-you hit the nail on the head. It's a colleague thing, all men, I trust he's not doing anything dodgy and he wasn't drunk last night so fine for work and driving just a bit tired
The thing that annoys me is that it sets him back being tired for days afterwards and then he goes and does it again once he's recovered.
Anyway he's lovely in every other way and I've already told him to reign it I'm for his own health etc
Thanks all, leaving thread now as embarrassed to be discussing myself online!

Well not being drunk would ring alarm bells for me. If you are out until even 1 or 2 am what the hell have you been doing in that time if you aren't even drunk?

I think if you liked him enough to have 2 children with him you at least owe him a grown up discussion about this before slinging ultimatums around old fashioned romantic that I am. YANBU not to want this to be a regular thing though.

Itsraining how depressing. It is possible to socialise without getting wasted, you know. Actually, it can be more fun.

Sorry but there is a major discrepancy here between you saying on the one hand he is out until all hours and stinks of drink the next day and is tired for days afterwards and then on the other hand saying that last night he came home at stupid o'clock but is somehow fine for work and driving. Which is it?