WWBU to regift the vouchers?

[RoyalMaybe]

We are going to a wedding next month and my husband is the best man. His best friend is getting married.

To cut a long story short, the wedding itself is costing the guests a fortune as well as a whole load of inconvenience. Dearest hotel we know, in the middle of nowhere, bar prices through the roof, all guests have not much choice but to travel and stay over, no other hotels for miles, no coaches, expensive stag do, etc etc. The guy is a total groomzilla but to be fair he's been a very good friend to my husband over the years so we are trying to grin and bear it and make the most of it.

Money is tight right now. I'm on SMP so we're really surviving on husbands salary and we don't have much in savings (although we do have a little bit so we won't go hungry or anything like that!). I haven't bought my dress yet (post-baby body - previous clothes don't fit so will need something new) and we haven't paid for our hotel room yet. Not quite sure how we'll make ends meet this month!! All should be ok next payday though.

We got married a couple of years ago and were gifted some John Lewis vouchers (not by this couple!). We haven't used them yet. The couple have asked for John Lewis vouchers as a wedding present. I know that John Lewis vouchers don't expire, so tbh I'm really tempted to just give them some of our vouchers rather than spend another £50-100 that we don't really have this month.

Is that a terrible, cheap thing to do?? And if not, can anyone think of any way they could find out that we've done that??

[Sockmatcher]

Not read full thread but can you repurchase the gift vouchers and get new date etc on them? I'd do that and possibly split into smaller amount too!

[PurpleCrazyHorse]

Personally I'd just get them a nice card, or put £20 of vouchers in. I certainly wouldn't be spending a lot on top of an expensive location/drinks/accommodation.

Definitely look on eBay for a dress, or buy a nice summery one from a supermarket. Seriously, unless you're family, you can get away with wearing pretty much anything. And if you buy something you're likely to wear again anyway, it's not such a waste of money.

If you're staying at the hotel, bring drinks & snacks with you and top up from a hip flask or handbag. Have free tap water between drinks to reduce spending (you can also get little squirty packets of squash too, to make it taste a bit nicer) or they often have squash behind the bar as a mixer. Have a 'nice' drink and then a free/cheap one to keep costs down.

[Redglitter]

Queen why thank you the same tactic has been applied to Christmas nights out too. So far we have a 100% 'getting away with it' record