I have posted before about MiL and her approach with my 2 DS. In brief DS1 went for a visit and was told off for wetting the bed, causing months of bed wetting as a result.
Anyway, fast forward to now and we had DS2's christening recently and all of DH's family completely ignored both the children. Sat separately from us and brought strangers along to the christening. They have form for this and even at my wedding I had lots of random people that I had no idea who they were. I am obviously really hurt by the way they have treated the boys and still have hang ups over their attitude from before anyway.
BiL has recently started a relationship with an old friend of mine, we were good friends for a few years and after the loss of 2 babies since September last year she accused us of making it up. At this point I stopped talking to her and vowed not to speak to her again. This causes massive problems in the family as we refuse to attend family functions if she is attending.
We have had all family members tell us that we are isolating our children from them and how we really should get over it and be civil for the sake of the wider family. I do see their point and see why this is difficult for them but I really do not want to see this woman and don't want to be pleasant to her for anyone's sake. She is now pregnant and now the pressure to forgive and forget is more than ever.
All of DH's family say we are completely unreasonable and now they are having a baby we should be making an effort to build a relationship with BiL and his partner. They literally do not talk about anything else, they don't visit our children (we live 2.5hours away) but they don't call or text at all either.
Would I be unreasonable to stop calling them and texting etc when our efforts are often ignored or not reciprocated?