To claim csa?

[Confusedfuzz]

Separated from husband a long time ago. He has hardly seen our dc. Doesn't pay a penny! Or a presents or anyhing. I asked him for trainers for ds and he brought him £4 ones from primark.

Anyway, I'm sick of it. I put a claim in for csa yesterday. Apparently they have been ringing him all day. This was clear due to all the abusive texts I have received. "You are trying to ruin my life" what paying for your kids?!
And "what did you expect when you walked away".. To be a father?!

Anyway. He's making me feel guilty. So aibu?

No your not op.

your doing the right thing

I would ask if you had hooked up with my ex...
Couldn't afford a pair of croc copies for ds1, but managed to afford ice creams, meals out and B&B for himself and new GF...
If you get any luck with csa, let me know?
I haven't bothered claiming, as they apparently give you 15% of his pay.
15% of "sitting on his backside, too lazy to get a job" wasn't worth fighting for...
No. Ynbu. He needs to help out with his kids too!

You are 100% not being unreasonable!

He needs to realise even though he has walked away you can't just leave responsibilities. You might not be able to force him to be a dad, but you have every right to financial help in supporting & raising the children.

Good luck with everything, there's a lot of bad press about the CSA but I found them fairly helpful. Ignore the abusive messages, he obviously just doesn't want to face up to his responsibilities.

Absolutely- and block his number!
I would have responded with 'who is this'? Let them deal with it!

Thank you all! I report all his abusive messages because he's made threats to kill.

I wish I claimed earlier tbh. £51 a week they think I'm entitled too, hopefully this is true

YANBU! Good luck.

Good luck he's got away without paying for too long as it is.

Ruining his life?! Selfish twat

Yanbu. Go for it.