To be thoroughly fed up and close to tears?

[hullabaloo234]

I am 39 weeks pregnant, and feel pregnant immediately following a MC so all in all, bar a brief 2.5 week gap I've been pregnant for nearly 11 months. Everything hurts, I can't face food as it just makes me feel sick/need the loo and my SPD means I just cannot get comfy in bed so sleeping like poo.

I know I should be excited and happy to be having my baby and really I am, but AIBU to feel really fed up and tearful?! My DP keeps saying it won't be long etc and gets a bit annoyed with me if I am not 100% perky and happy so trying to hide how bloody miserable I feel but it's getting difficult!

Any words of wisdom on how to not fall apart waiting for labour greatly received!
When I had DD1 although I went overdue I wasn't uncomfortable like I am this time and breezed though it!

Absolutely understand everything you're saying OP, 39 weeks here too and I've been crying over stupid stuff all day. I'm so uncomfortable, even when I'm supposed to be resting. I'm desperate to get this baby out, it wasn't this hard with my first.

I've had my 2nd sweep today and the midwife said I'd made no progress since last time, I cried my eyes out all the way home. She's booked my induction so although it's not how I imagined, it's an end. Maybe check with your midwife and see if she can do the same, just knowing a final possible day has helped me feel better and because it's when I'll be 40+7 I can turn it down on the day if I don't feel that it's the right decision.

Just do what you can and when you can, it'll be over soon. Sending positive vibes and very un mumsnetty hugs to you.

Spend the days napping, bathing, eating pineapples and currys, go for walks if you can muster it (i couldn't as it was snowy and I had spd (which amusingly my spellcheck changes to sod :) )) or sit in the garden or watch box sets, catch up on TV/films, prep some freezer meals, do some internet shopping, all with rest and naps in between, get some tunes on you iPod/MP3 etc sort through paperwork, season appropriate post maternity clothing, get a hair cut so you have 6weeks before you need to go again. Invite friends round for coffee and give them shopping lists to get on the way (make sure you have cash in).

And tell Dh to sod off and to start picking up your slack as if you aren't having the "pregnancy won't stop me" type of pregnancy (for me giant bump and spd did stop me ) then there is slack that you can do nothing about and right now relaxing, saving your energies for what on average uses the same calories as running a marathon and enjoying the head space as you prepare for the unknown (unless you are having an elcs in which case you are preparing for the known surgery as well as unknown new motherhood).

He should make sure you have everything you need and help you prepare.

Do you have a pregnancy pillow? I found it to be a godsend! A memory foam mattress topper or mattress might also help you sleep better.

'What have you been doing all day?'
'Planning in my head how, when I'm in labour, I'm going to grab hold of your balls, and twist every time I get a contraction.'

I hope feeling emotional is a sign of imminent labour. Good luck.

Have you tried sleeping on the sofa? I found out far too late how much comfier it was. The back of the sofa stops you rolling back.

I think you should cry when you feel like it - I find it does make me feel better...so first feel free to have a good bawl....really enjoy it.

Secondly I also think that feeling truly fed up of being pregnant is nature's way of helping you face childbirth - you get to the point where you just want it out- no room for fear or doubt. So now you have reached that point you are ready to meet your new arrival -with or without a sweep- it will be soon.
And hope for the best, expect the worst....you have done 39 weeks -at the very very very worst (42 weeks) you are over 90% of the way there...most likely you are more than 98% of the way there....just 2% to go ...a tiny amount of time.

Good luck ...

If you haven't gone into labour by the weekend, gaffer tape dc1 to dh and tell him to do the housework.

What were you doing all day? "I WAS BUSY GROWING A PERSON"

You are perfectly within your rights to want to rip people's heads off. Try and do what you can to survive, and insist he looks after you and stops asking stupid questions if he wants to live.

Good luck, nearly there!

Oh and if you don't have one, get a slow cooker, he can load it before work if he wants dinner ready for when he gets home! ;)

I spent a full year sick with various illnesses - I was so depressed and grumpy - and did a lot of complaining

I'm finally better and can't believe how great I feel a I can do so much - and I actually enjoy life again

Not long to go for you now

Thank you all for your kind messages! Ended up having a good sob into my pillow and it did make me feel a bit better!

Pretended to be asleep when he came up, and finally got off to sleep around 1. Roll on 11.30 and MW appt for my sweep, would love for her to tell me something I'd happening but i won't hold my breath

After MW I really need to go to sainsburys for a few bits but once I'm e I plan to spend the afternoon with my feet up reading my book

Home even! sorry swollen fingers and tiny phone keyboard

Know the feeling I had SPD and it's horrid! Every movement hurts, sitting, standing, walking, lying down. I'd take labour over SPD any day! If it's any consulation mine disappeared the day after my DD popped out!

That's what I'm hoping,that the baby will he born and I'll immediately feel a hundred percent better simply for not lugging a very heavy baby around anymore!!

Saw the MW - cervix is 2cm (so I think that means 50% effaced??) and 1cm open os, soft but closed inside so couldn't do the sweep But she did say that the cervix was much more favourable than she would expect at 39 weeks and will do another next Tues when she thinks I'll be ready for it. Bless her she has also taken pity on me and will contact my consultant at next week's appt and see if she can book my induction in early if I've not already started (baby already 9lbs so not keen on potentially another weeks before induction!) so hopefully not more than a coucouple of weeks to go now, though if baby chooses to come tonight I wouldn't be upset!
Does anyone know, as I forgot to ask, as cervix not yet dilated does that mean I definitely won't go into labour anytime soon??

That all just depends hullabaloo - anything can happen it's not a science

I had chronic spd so lots of empathy from me it's just hideous and exhausting and so painful. I did feel much better post birth.

Just a word of advice

-Digging a hole under the patio to bury your insensitive DH is not a good idea when you are 39 weeks with SPD

I ended up sleeping in a chair for the last week or two of my pregnancies.

Sending lots of easy labour vibes.

Hahaha chasz! Here's a turnaround for the books- he's just rang and said he will cook dinner when he gets in, so that's a nice result Just as well, I'm mega comfy on the bed so can't be arsed to move!

Sending big hugs. I've been there my last pregnancy was immediately after a m/c. By the end of the pregnancy everything including simple tasks was hard. My ribs killed me as my beautiful dd had a head which measured 4wks ahead, I had a rash under my bust, my piles were crazy, my feet and ankles were like balloons and I also couldn't sleep. It's horrible and my DH was something similar to your DH - could not quite understand why I permanently had ice packs at my ribs.
On the plus side, you don't have long to go and once your baby is born the immense sense of relief that the baby is here safe and sound totally overwhelms anything else.

Go and do something really self indulgent like get a beautician to come to your house and get your nails done. You are not being unreasonable as my dr used to say "I know that you are feeling horrible but if it makes you feel any better your baby is thriving as it is taking all of the good stuff from you!"

Ooooh a beautician that's an amazing idea! My hair is done but a mani pedi and a facial would be lovely! Maybe get some reflexology to try and kick start labour whilst I'm at it!
I'm sorry to hear you suffered too, but yes your right it will all be so worth it once she is born . Genuinely not concerned about labour, just want to get it done now!
DP has cooked dinner and washed up so I've had a very lazy afternoon, feel tonnes better for it. Might try and do the same again tomorrow