Single women over 30 are failures, apparently!

[Sansarya]

I have a colleague who seems to be the gift that just keeps giving when it comes to sound bytes. In the past its included the gems "I could never respect a man who was a SAHD" and "yuck, how could you buy stuff from eBay for your baby?" Her latest is that single women over 30 with no kids are seen as failures.

Apparently it doesn't matter what you've achieved in your education or career, if you don't have a man you haven't succeeded. And apparently a lot of people think this so she has advised her 21yo sister that once she finishes university, she needs to find a husband and have kids ASAP.

It's not just me who finds it depressing that people still think the most important thing a woman needs to do in life is catch a man, is it?

I think it was Clint Eastwood who said 'opinions are like arseholes, everybody has one'.

I work on the basis that the other person isn't living my life so I don't really care or worry about what they are thinking. Do you think they are worrying about what you think?

The older I get the more I start listening to what people are not saying rather than what they are saying. In this case she is effectively saying I haven't achieved anything in life so this is what I am focusing on to make me feel good about me.

Being a wife and mother is awesome btw but no reason to rubbish other people's choices (education would have taught her this ).

I used to be in contact with people I knew at school who were exactly like this. This is exactly the sort of rubbish that came out of their mouths. Once I started disconnecting from them life became a lot more enjoyable. Very limited in their view of the world and all its possibilities, kinda sad really.

I have seen many women with this silly view rushing into marriage with any man they could grab and force a proposal out of before the big 3 0 birthday (or whatever 'deadline' they had set themselves). Now that was sad to view.