To only serve my 15 month old pancakes, mash and yoghurts

[monsterinc]

Because that is all he will actually bloody eat therefore has to be given a multi vitamin everyday. So sick of wasting food trying now. Everything i put in front of him which isn't the pancakes etc. Is met with a HUGE screaming fit and he will just throw it everywhere!

Its been about a month now and i feel like giving up trying.

My DS went through a stage for a few months at 2-ish of only eating cheap sausages, spaghetti hoops, yogurt and the odd bit of banana. I gave in eventually and just fed him those things for a while, then slowly added a few new foods with the same old offering. Eventually it worked.

He was still very very fussy until the age of about 5/6 yrs old, but would eat a few things from different foo groups and drank plenty of milk and water, so I tried not to worry.

He is 10 now and only mildly fussy.

There was a program on TV the other week week (Born Naughty?) about a child that wouldn't eat - the mother thought he had 'food phobia'. He was assessed by the experts. It turned out that every time he wouldn't eat something the mother offered him an alternative and, if he wouldn't eat that, she offered him another alternative. Then yoghurt, which he would eat and ate dozens a week.

She was advised to stop giving him alternatives and, lo and behold, within 6 weeks he was eating normally. Lesson learned.

Yes ywbu.

Have family meal times where everyone eats the same thing. No pressure on him, but no alternatives offered if he doesn't eat. Allow him to play with his food and have fun.

To avoid wastage, I would either eat his leftovers, or keep then for later.

For some it's a power struggle. Of course they'd rather have ice cream than the boring porridge mummy makes. This was my son this morning, he got introduced to ice cream this weekend and now it's all he wants. Throws a massive tantrum, porridge everywhere and he is cleaned up and put back down to play. If he wins that battle he'll be growing up thinking he can get his own way by simply going into one. 10 minutes later he is more hungry he comes back and porridge will do. He is getting better at trying new stuff and it helps he sees us eating it first. But if he doesn't eat it then I make no fuss, he won't starve.

Agree with a lot of the good advice that you've already been given up thread particularly the advice to serve him what you / rest of family is having (if safe/appropriate) and to try and eat as a family as much as possible. Can I also suggest that breakfast and lunchtimes might be the best times to offer new foods as I find my kids are more open to trying new things earlier in the day as they're often hungrier and less tired than they might be by tea time. They're often grizzly and less interested in food later in the day so less receptive to even favourite foods never mind new things. Another idea, although you're little one might be a bit young for this yet, is to allow your child to choose and serve their own selection and portion at mealtimes as they may find this less daunting so for example; at lunch set the table for everyone with a selection of small sandwiches - 2-3 different fillings/breads; 2-3 different fruit & veg in toddler friendly sizes eg Apple wedges, tangerine segments, cucumber sticks etc and allow your child to select what they want. Might work, might not? Keep trying as things will get better in time.

It sounds like a texture thing to me - they are all foods you can squish in your mouth and swallow without really chewing.
Will they eat non-chunky soup maybe?