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AIBU?

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To think if you need care in your own home

14 replies

Soyalatte2 · 07/06/2015 09:09

The people providing that shouldn't stink?name changed here but I need personal care From carers.

The ones who came in this morning smelled awful and it's not right.

Or AIBU and should put up with it for half an hour?

OP posts:
LaurieFairyCake · 07/06/2015 09:14

Do you mean cigarette smoke?

Yes, it's horrible. But apart from
asking them to wash their hands, eat a mint there's not very much you can do.

Could you request non smoking carers?

If it's BO then you could raise it with your social worker or the company providing care?

Soduthen116 · 07/06/2015 09:15

Smelled of what?

Soyalatte2 · 07/06/2015 09:15

One was smoke one was garlic or something.

OP posts:
Soduthen116 · 07/06/2015 09:27

Oh dear it's horrible but difficult as no laws or regs are being broken here. You might be able to request a non smoker, not sure, but you certainly can't dictate what they eat.

monkeysox · 07/06/2015 09:28

Anyone working closely with others should not smell Flowers

QuiteLikely5 · 07/06/2015 09:45

I think you are being unreasonable.

No you cannot expect someone to ensure they don't smell of garlic. I'm sure it wasn't on purpose.

ApeMan · 07/06/2015 10:04

Once in a while everyone smells of their food (and if they smoke, their fags). As long as it isn't regular YABABU

If they regularly smell unpleasant YADNBU

ohtheholidays · 07/06/2015 10:09

YANBU at all.My husband is my carer luckily so I don't have the same problem.

But no they shouldn't smell bad,weather it's cigarette smoke,bad body odour or a strong food smell.

I've known a few people that have been carers,one of them being my MIl and all of them managed to do they're job without smelling of anything someone else might find offensive.

Birdsgottafly · 07/06/2015 11:13

All companies have a minimum set of Personal Hygiene policies.

This should (by law) include "Safe" smoking practices, so a Carer shouldn't smell of smoke, food is a bit more tricky and cant be insisted on because there is no Health risk, so it could be deemed as "indirect discrimination".

From my experience, many Carers that cover weekends, are called into place last minute, so it may be a genuine lapse, but if it happens again, you can report the Smoke smell.

SurlyCue · 07/06/2015 11:15

No you cannot expect someone to ensure they don't smell of garlic.

In her own home she can have whatever expectations she likes!

PtolemysNeedle · 07/06/2015 11:25

It's a difficult one. It's not much for you to expect no, but then at the same time, we can't expect carers who smoke or who fancy a bit if garlic bread not to indulge in those things during time that they aren't being paid for. Even the time that they are paid for they get a pittance, and there's only so much you can expect from people who are being paid so little.

spicyfajitas · 07/06/2015 11:33

They could smell of smoke because they've just come from caring for someone in a really smoky home.
My health visitor once tuned up to visit my newborn while stinking of smoke. I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt and hoping it's because she'd just carried out a really smoky home visit.

shrunkenhead · 07/06/2015 11:40

There's no excuse for smelling anything less than fragrant unless you're in the gym/running a marathon/digging the garden etc which presumably you'd shower ASAP prior to your shift! And if they've just eaten chew gum/duck a mint. As for smoking well it does smell and I guess unavoidable but as others have said I'd see about changing to a non smoker.

shrunkenhead · 07/06/2015 11:41

Suck a mint even!

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