To be a bit miffed at DH...

[bethatasitmay]

He's invited some friends over "in the afternoon", no more specifics. He's suggested I make fajitas for dinner because they like Mexican food. He's then gone off to do his hobby (something he does every week, so I probably shouldn't be surprised) which goes on till 1.30pm.

We've not done the shopping for this evening meal, the house is a tip, and DD won't sit still while I clean, which he knows.

AIBU to be a little annoyed? I'm sure he won't be mad if the house is a mess when our friends arrive and if he has to run out while they're here for groceries, but I'd feel so embarrassed at our sloppiness!

You tidy while he shops and cooks. Or don't tidy and get takeaway for everyone. And call to ask when they're arriving. No need to be upset at anyone or even do anything for that matter.

Text him and say 'you'll need to come straight back so one of us can take DD out and get shopping while the other cleans. Mexican is a nice idea if you want to make it, but I won't be cooking so otherwise we will all be chipping in for a takeaway'.

By the way, do you get a morning off from childcare every weekend to do something of your choice?

I'm going with the text him the shopping list. If you can text friends and ask what time they plan to arrive and if you can get them to bring crisps and dip or a pudding.

Involve DC in the tidy up game and have a quick tidy and a whizz round the bathroom.

If you are prepared to cook then tell him he's in charge of child care. Tomorrow take some time for yourself.

for a start if they are mutual friends what's the problem with phoning to say

twatface dh just sprang your visit on me, Bring X,Y,Z with you and don't arrive until ...looking forward to it, see you later.

other than that fajitas are very quick....have you stuff in to get ahead...make salad, chop stuff, then you (including dh in the "you") will just have the cooking to do....if not then you crack on with the house and as pictish said ...don't flounce off out of what could be a nice casual afternoon, but make sure himself knows he is behaving badly and he is not being let off the hook to play Mein Host while you skivvy

Ted and Lola-didn't op say
He's suggested I make fajitas for dinner because they like

Yes?

I don't see the problem actually,

If they're friends they won't give a fuck how messy your house is and if you can't be arsed cooking just get a take away or ask him to pick up some pizzas on the way home.

You just need to lower your standards.

He suggested you cook fajitas?

Well I suggest you tell him to order a take away. He extended the invitation, he can deal with the food.

My post stands regardless of them being mutual friends.