AIBU to plan one night away for my birthday to leave DP looking after 1 x DC?
It would be for my birthday and I would love to go to London to look around some art galleries & museums. (OK, maybe a bit of shopping too.)
DP is not into that sort of thing, he will get bored and grumpy. DC would also get bored and has said he doesn’t want to come with me.
We are all going to London again together later on this year to take DC around the stuff he is interested in.
DP would kick up a horrendous stink if I told him I also wanted to go away before this, on my own.
His arguments to me would be:
(a) “you (we) can’t afford it” – well actually I can - I have been saving up and we don’t appear to have gone hungry in the meantime;
(b) “you are selfish / why do you want to go away on your own?!” – because I like some personal space to recharge my batteries and not listen to juvenile chatter or you being miserable which I do without much complaint for the other 354 days per year;
(c) “Why can’t I come with you”; - I would prefer to be alone – mainly because I can’t afford to pay for you (and you would not want to pay for yourself) and you are not really interested anyway, also who then would look after DC?
It might sound like we have an odd relationship (maybe we do?) but I do value a little bit of time alone / away from DP and DC.
I also would not stop him if he wanted to do the same thing – i.e. have a night away.
AIBU?