Don't Know If I Am Or Not

[zukiecat]

I can't decide if AIBU, some of you may be aware of my many difficulties with my family and my subsequent mental health issues, and this may be clouding my views a bit.

My brother was 50 a few weeks ago, so I bought two nice cards (one from me, one from DC) and inside mine I put £10, and as I'm on disability benefits and only have a minimum wage PT job, which the DSS class as permitted work, this is actually quite a lot of money to me. I also bought a jokey kind of pint glass which is the kind of thing my brother likes. I dropped everything off at his house (handed over to my niece) a couple of days before his birthday. Brother and SIL were away on the actual day so I couldn't phone to say Happy Birthday.

Now, four weeks on I've heard nothing at all, no acknowledgement or thankyou. I'm not really someone who needs thanks, I don't expect thankyou notes or anything, but had the situation been reversed and either me or DC hadn't thanked him for a gift, there'd be hell to pay!

I don't know what it is I'm looking for, but I spent money I could ill afford and made a special journey (going out can be hard for me) and my brother has just ignored it all.

I don't know of your difficulties so apologies if this is not workable, but can you send him a text?

Something along the lines of:

Hope you had a great birthday, sorry I missed you when I dropped off your cards and pint pot. Hope you've been able to put the glass to good use.

He'll hopefully then apologise and say thanks for the gifts, or if he didn't get them, ask what you are on about?

I don't know of your difficulties so apologies if this is not workable, but can you send him a text?

Something along the lines of:

Hope you had a great birthday, sorry I missed you when I dropped off your cards and pint pot. Hope you've been able to put the glass to good use.

He'll hopefully then apologise and say thanks for the gifts, or if he didn't get them, ask what you are on about and then you can explain in full what you have done.

I don't know of your difficulties so apologies if this is not workable, but can you send him a text?

Something along the lines of:

Hope you had a great birthday, sorry I missed you when I dropped off your cards and pint pot. Hope you've been able to put the glass to good use.

He'll hopefully then apologise and say thanks for the gifts, or if he didn't get them, ask what you are on about and then you can explain in full what you have done.

I would do what maxipepsi suggested. Such a great idea MN decided we should have it in triplicate

Bloody hell, sorry, knew my computer was having a moment but didn't realise quite how much

Thanks everyone, that's quite a good suggestion PepsiMax, I could try that and see what happens.

I don't like any sort of confrontation but a text seems pretty harmless.

Sorry MaxPepsi

I don't know of your difficulties so apologies if this is not workable, but...

Oh wait, nevermind