To sell the tickets to someone else?

[HeadInTheClouds30]

Long time lurker here as I've never felt the need to post before!

A very well known singer announced a gig in my local area at the start of the year - I was delighted as my DH and I have loved his music since before he was this famous, so I was determined to try and get some tickets for us to see him. My DSis sent me a message to say that she and my DN wanted to go too, so could they come with us if I got their tickets with ours? No problem I thought, the more the merrier.

Ticket release day rolls around and I am lucky enough to get 4 tickets as they sold within minutes. From social media, I can see lots of people complaining that they couldn't get any, including some of my friends and DH's family too. I message my DSis to let her know I got her 2 tickets and she replies with 'Great! How much do I owe you?' so I reply with the cost and she says she will get the money to me.

This was 3 months ago now, the gig is a month away and you guessed it...I haven't seen the money! I've had 2 or 3 messages asking me to remind her of the amount, my bank details so she can transfer it...but still it's not in my bank account.

The amount is small enough for me to swallow if necessary but what is irking me is the principle of the matter! If I ask someone to get something for me, I pay them back immediately as I wouldn't want them to be out of pocket on my account. She and I are far from what you would call 'close' but she is a very selfish person and always has been. I know for a fact that if this were me owing her money, she would expect it to be paid back immediately. She is the sort of person who when she sells anything secondhand, expects the amount she paid for it brand new! She is a single parent with a teenage DD but she works full time and earns decent money, so she isn't hard up. She bought a brand new car at the start of the year and has been busy decorating and buying new furniture recently, so she cannot use the excuse that she hasn't got the money to give! I just suspect that because it's me, she thinks I can wait for it at her leisure and in the meantime can spend her money on other things

So AIBU to tell her that if she doesn't pay the money by the end of the month at the very latest, that I will sell her 2 tickets to my friends who couldn't get them?

Damn right you should sell them to someone else - someone who'll actually pay you for the product or service that you are offering. I hate pisstakers like this - I'd give her one more warning and that would be it. Say you have another friend with ready cash who'd like the tickets so you're giving her 24 hours to pay or you're selling!

YANBU at all! No money no tickets.

Of course YANBU

Hate people like this. I'd message saying you have other people interested in the ticket and say if you don't receive money by Thursday, they will have to go to someone else x

Yanbu at all.

End of the month? End of the week would be fairer.

YANBU - as PPs have said, no money by Thursday (Friday at the latest) you're selling them on. No ifs or buts.

Give her a deadline - hi Sis, don't know if you've forgotten but you haven't paid for those tickets to see [whoever] yet. I need the money back for them. Can you pay for them by Friday 12th please, or I'll have to put them on Facebook to sell as I need to recoup the cost and you've had two months to get the cash to me. I'm sure you understand Head.

Nerve of the woman.

YANBU. I'd geive her a specific date you want to be paid by rather then saying 'by the end of the month' and make that date no more than a week after you send the message.

She'll be hoping to give you the money on the night or after the event (do NOT let her do the latter - you won't get it.) Once had someone asking me if they could pay me back a £1 a week for some £10 tickets (1990s). I asked her if she asked the same question at the checkout in Tesco!

Yep, one more chance and then sell them to someone else.

YANBU.
it doesn't sound like she ever intends to pay you at all.
i would get in there now and find a way to get your money back without depending on her to cough up.

I second the idea of telling her that someone else has offered to buy the tickets from you and asking her to pay up now if she still wants the tickets. is she likely to have a strop at "your cheek" is asking her to actually pay up.

Yanbu so long as you give her fair warning and an easy way to get you the dosh e.g. bank details so she can make a transfer.

YANBU.

I would text her and say "Hey DSis, are you still up for coming to the gig? If so, can you send me the money by the end of the week? If not, I've had a few friends ask for your ticket so can easily sell it on. Love Head"

Forget end of the month. Text her and say you need the money by Friday or you'll have to sell her tickets as you need the money for something.

If it was me you'd got the tickets for I'd have put the money to the side when I asked you to try get tickets and paid you straight away.

I'm a bugger for forgetting to pay - but you only need to ask me twice! I'd say to her 'I need the money for the tickets by x date. If you're not interested in coming anymore let me know by then and I'll sell them to some friends who are interested'

yanbu. I'd say by Friday though myself.

Thank you for all your replies It's nice to know that I am not being unreasonable about this. The trouble with me is that I am very soft hearted and non-confrontational, so I hate this kind of thing. She is much less confident than me and even less non-confrontational so would not react badly to my request - more likely to just ignore it though! I have sent her a message asking if she has transferred the money to me yet and if not to pass it to my Mum over the weekend instead. I stated that it had been a couple of months now and I would like to get it paid off. I haven't had a reply yet but if she does not give the money to my Mum then I will be telling her that I am selling them to someone else!