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AIBU?

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for not being able to read DH's mind?

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FatGirlRuns · 31/05/2015 17:10

We just got back from a weekend away. I unpacked the car, sorted the food away, settled the dogs, helped DH unpack the camper, made him some lunch and then we both sat down for a rest after a long drive. Did you bring in the piece of wood that was in the car? he asks. No, I didn't know there was a piece of wood in the car. So he jumps up, goes out huffing and puffing, brings in the (obviously highly important) piece of wood, slams the door and sits back down looking grumpy. I ask him what the problem is, and apparently it's me. All he wanted to do was sit and chill after a long drive but he can't because he has to do all the stuff I've not bothered doing. Such as bringing the wood in from the car. I point out that I didn't know it was there, I had no idea he wanted it bringing in and that if he'd asked me to bring it in I'd have been quite happy to do so. His response: "I shouldn't need to ask." AIBU to be quite baffled at this or should I have received mind-reading instructions with the ring?

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AmyElliotDunne · 31/05/2015 17:14

He sounds like a dick. Is he always like this? What was he doing while you were bringing in everything else and making lunch?

Let me guess, on the loo? That was XH's trick when anything needed doing!

ItsTricky · 31/05/2015 17:25

Shove the stick up his arse

bittapitta · 31/05/2015 17:27

I would've picked up his lunch and chucked it. What an insulting way for him to react. Not normal.

maras2 · 31/05/2015 17:27

Twat.

FenellaFellorick · 31/05/2015 17:31

Where was the wood that you didn't see it when you were unpacking the car? Does he think you saw it and just left it?

He is wrong of course. I hate that "I shouldn't have to ask " Bullshit. Of course you do what is it with people who pull that crap.

Everyone has a responsibility to clearly communicate and nobody but them is responsible for any failure on their part to do so.

FatGirlRuns · 31/05/2015 17:48

Come to think of it he did spend quite a lot of time on the loo, yes. So at least I know there's plenty of room up there to shove the piece of wood now.
I have to be fair, he's never normally like that, that's why I'm baffled by it. He knows that it's extra important to communicate clearly with me as I have Asperger's and I need stuff explaining clearly at the best of times.
He's just offered to make me some toast and I really want some but I'm still sulking. Not prepared to act like I've forgiven him just to get a plate of toast.

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andthenagain · 31/05/2015 17:54

Shove the toast the same place you are going to shove the wood..

AmyElliotDunne · 31/05/2015 17:59

So at least I know there's plenty of room up there to shove the piece of wood now. Grin

Make yourself a mountain of toast and chuck his wood on the fire to keep you cosy while your eating it!

AmyElliotDunne · 31/05/2015 18:00

You're -arghh damn iPad has forgotten it's a word and offered me 'youre' instead.

FatGirlRuns · 31/05/2015 18:09

He has admitted he was out of order, apologised for being an arse, and is cooking me dinner. Definitely the right move saying no to the toast, he knows I'm seriously pissed off when I turn down food.

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