To think she was unreasonable to smoke all over my coat?

[ApignamedJasper]

I was at a friend's bbq at her house with DP yesterday.

I had left my fairly new coat on the back of a chair in the dining room (house is being done up so a bit of a building site and no where else to store the coat).

It started to rain so we came back in the house and when I walked into the room I saw friend's sister sitting on the chair my coat was on, smoking.

Now I know I would bu to tell her where to smoke in her own house but I was really annoyed that of all the chairs in the room, which were all empty, she chose to sit in the chair with my coat on and let her smoke drift all over it making it stink. She knows I don't smoke as we have met on several occasions.

Aibu to be annoyed and think that she should have been a bit more considerate about her smoking when she knows I don't smoke. It really stinks of smoke now and makes me feel sick every time I put it on :(

We had to leave early in the end as almost everyone bar me and DP at the bbq were smoking and when we all came inside the smell was unbearable :/

Now that I think about it, cats and lard is a bit of an odd combination. She's a great friend...No judgement from me on the smell of her home. She and her DH are busy people who care for lots of animals (mainly cats) and think that food fried in lard tastes better. I go around there knowing I'm going to smell after. Our friendship is worth it.

I agree 5DayChicken about friendships being worth it. If they're not, they're not.

A smoking friend's most irritating habit when smoking outside is to wave her hands about to disperse the smoke from my face. I can cope with the smell. I just don't want her to slap me on the nose. So I don't buy into the idea that all smokers are oblivious and selfish about their habit. I've had to ask her to stop it. The semaphore, not the smoking.

DH once made these in boiling lard.

Fantastic. Huge palaver though. He is one of those men who does one-off spectaculars and waits for praise. At least he tidies up. He also smoked a cigar in a showy-offy fashion that night. But it was in the garden.