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Dp ex keeps popping up!

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Confusedfuzz · 30/05/2015 21:00

Been with do for 18 months. The first 7 months he was mourning his ex partner. They weren't together long. A few weeks. He declares that he did love her (first gf!!) and when she left him to go back to her ex he was gutted.

A few months ago, he bumped into her at the local asda, and didn't tell me until recently. She appologised to him ect

Today we have traveled an hour from home to a hotel for afternoon tea and to stay in a hotel..

We walk into the bar and she's there with all her friends.

I felt sick :(

He was trying to rush our afternoon tea and was obv worried

She is so pretty and slim :(

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AnyFucker · 30/05/2015 21:02

you carried on dating a guy that was "mourning his ex for the first 7 months" ? Confused

lunar1 · 30/05/2015 21:04

You would be better finding someone who has finished morning their ex.

ImperialBlether · 30/05/2015 21:07

What was he worrying about? Did he think she might have something to say to you?

AnyFucker · 30/05/2015 21:08

as in "why are you out with my boyfriend" ?

caitlinohara · 30/05/2015 21:09

Hang on, his first gf and they were only together a few weeks.. How old is he ffs?

ImperialBlether · 30/05/2015 21:11

Why did she apologise to him in Asda? She finished with him, but no need to apologise for that, surely?

Penfold007 · 30/05/2015 21:11

Pull together every ounce of your self esteem and run.

Birdsgottafly · 30/05/2015 21:13

She isn't "popping up", he's trying to bump into her.

What prompted your trip out? I'd put money on him knowing that she was meeting up with friends there.

This relationship should of finished as soon as you knew he was "mourning his ex".

You are something to fill his time with until he is back on track.

RubyMay82 · 30/05/2015 21:16

7 months of your relationship when you should have been in the first flush of love & he was "mourning" another woman?
What made this change at the 7 months?
This can't be doing you any favours it would mess with my head thinking I was with someone who was pining for an ex?
Ditch ditch ditch
For your own peace of mind!

Original poster
Confusedfuzz · 30/05/2015 21:16

Tbf we was friends for a while before we got together.

He's amazing, he really is. Treats me like a princess and is a proper gentleman.

The ex walked past us but I don't think she recognised him.

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Confusedfuzz · 30/05/2015 21:17

Today's trip was completely my idea! I planned the whole thing as its his birthday and the hotel is gorgeous

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Birdsgottafly · 30/05/2015 21:18

Just saw he was only with her weeks, yet "loved her" and it was his first GF, unless you are very young, end this if your wanting a relationship and not just a bit of fun.

Bellebella · 30/05/2015 21:21

How old is he?

Birdsgottafly · 30/05/2015 21:21

"He's amazing, he really is. Treats me like a princess and is a proper gentleman."

Does he treat you like a person he respects and cares for?

What was worrying him when his ex was there?

She isn't really an ex, after a few weeks and he sounds like he was a rebound fling.

Marynary · 30/05/2015 21:24

Life is too short to be with someone who is "mourning" their ex despite the fact that they were only together for a few weeks and she now doesn't even recognise him. It sounds as if he is making a big deal out of nothing. Very immature.

AlpacaMyBags · 30/05/2015 21:28

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MagentaVitus · 30/05/2015 21:30

How old is he? An adult (say, aged 30ish) who hadn't been in a real relationship would be a bit of a red flag for me!

AnyFucker · 30/05/2015 21:39

"treats me like princess"

"a proper gentleman"

sure he does

AnyFucker · 30/05/2015 21:41

such naivety is difficult to comprehend

FenellaFellorick · 30/05/2015 21:47

seriously?

You stayed with a man for 7 months who actually would have preferred to be with someone else?

And you truly think that he just happened coincidentally to take you to a hotel an hour away where by sheer chance his ex also was?

FenellaFellorick · 30/05/2015 21:48

oh, xpost, well, if you booked it and he didn't know about it, suggest it then I apologise for thinking that he knew she'd be there, or she knew he'd be there.

Hell of a coincidence though.

AnyFucker · 30/05/2015 21:51

did he say how much he loved the place and you decided to give him a lovely surprise ?

KittyVonCatsworth · 30/05/2015 21:53

Fuck that tbh. The first year is supposed to be shag happy and for 7 months of that you've been the booby prize? Sorry, he may treat you well now but I think he's emotionally immature and after he drives you batshit crazy and you figure it out, the one after you will be where you are now. Emotionally stunted.

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Confusedfuzz · 30/05/2015 21:53

Nope he has never mentioned the place. I found it and booked it without him knowing

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RubyMay82 · 30/05/2015 21:56

If he was over her he wouldn't have given a shit she was there with her pals & if it was a brief thing with her possibly even have went oh "hi x long time no see this is y my new girlfriend" not tried to rush you away

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